Several transgenders who I know, always envision themselves with like goatees and other typical attributes that shape them into this trucker guy look.
And I just don’t get it and spare me the whole “that’s just what they wanna be” responses. Because, there are other male models to ideally go for than just that. I personally don’t find the look attractive myself so I can’t really care that they go this direction.
That isn’t all that a guy is anyways, that isn’t even what it usually takes to look like a guy.
A’yup, people are going to turn and twist the context around to mean this as an attack. The freedom to talk about generally anything was a bygone era and it’s becoming more and more apparent.
Incoming responses next now of people jeering and telling me how much of an insensitive asshole that I am. rolls eyes Can’t wait. Let’s hear it. Bitch away.
Got a victim complex, huh?
You’re gonna get downvoted for making a blanket statement based on anecdotal evidence. Some trans people want to look like truckers. Some don’t. It’s like asking why lesbians are flannel-wearing mechanics.
Why not ask the people you know why?
Where’s the blanket statement? Oh, right, it’s just a made up thing for you to victimize yourself over. You make anything about you, don’t you?
I’m not trans so it’s not really about me, though.
Why do men want to sport the trucker look? Because they like it. Why do trans men sport the trucker look? It’s a mystery, better ask Lemmy!
I wouldn’t have called you an asshole until I read this comment! Really makes it seem like the whole post was more about ranting about your freedoms and those sensitive transgenders than a genuine inquiry into the lived experiences of trans guys, you know? Especially considering no one has said anything yet apart from yourself.
In case anyone reading this is actually having questions about the content of the main post, OPs anecdotes are not representative of trans men as a whole. Those who choose to present that way do so for a myriad of reasons, just as the cis men who present that way do. Would you be asking yourself these same questions about cis men? Trans people get shit if they try “too hard” to conform to gender stereotypes and also get shit if they don’t conform enough.
Except the problem with your response is that - nobody including I is making this up to be a big deal issue. You’re just pulling strawmen out of your ass to victimize yourself over.
Humility.
The OP was founded on a misconception (that all trans people want to look the same). It’s important to realise where you may have flawed logic and call it out. It demonstrates that you are willing to listen and learn. Even something as simple as “this may be confirmation bias, but…” or “Is what I’ve seen common?” goes a long way.
Secondly, you are going to be wrong on the internet. It’s inevitable; you’re going to offend someone or make a faux pas. Take the L, apologise and move on. Look inside yourself and accept “yeah, I goofed”. Don’t live a life where you feel you need to constantly be fighting off “attackers” and defending yourself.
People are much more receptive to peope who demonstrate a willingness to learn and grow.