Each city has a different mix of subcultures. Some cities are impersonal with posers and businesslike like Linkedin, some may be more of a disjoint cacophony like reddit or an aged police state dystopia like facebook…which ones have the vibe of Lemmy?
Just remember that when people say Austin, they do not mean the surrounding suburbs like Round Rock, Cedar Park, Bee Caves, etc. They mean the city of Austin.
– and even then they mean places like montopolis; where phrases like “keep austin wierd” means something still; everywhere else is just a bedroom neighborhood.