• qyron@sopuli.xyz
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    28 days ago

    I’m stumped at the simple task of trying to imagine what does imply to “feel like a man”.

    • Nightwatch Admin@feddit.nl
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      28 days ago

      100% guy here, real man feel is when others can rely on me, when I can help, that kind of stuff. Not “big car hurr durr bbq male superyorr” and the likes.

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      28 days ago

      A lot of it is centered around achievement and feeling useful, so building or fixing something, physical activity, being seen as a provider etc.

      It’s why men with families etc take being made redundant quite badly, not being able to provide for your family can really make you feel like a failure.

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        28 days ago

        Well that and not being able to put food on the table and a roof over their heads.

        It’s not about feelings at that point, even if they still exist.

    • prime_number_314159@lemmy.world
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      28 days ago

      I agree with some of the other answers you’ve received, but I want to add one.

      I think there’s a kind of impulsive confidence, and unmitigated determination that lets me put on shorts when it’s 20 degrees Fahrenheit out, then tells me to stay the course, and accept that I have entirely become cold, rather than merely passing by it.

      As for what other people can do to help me feel that feeling, I have no idea. I do those things because of the way that I am. People have already tried encouraging or discouraging me, and it hasn’t changed how I prefer to dress (for example).