That giving of yourself and being discerning, you could make sure to find balanced relationships.

People lie, to you and to themselves. Everyone wants to say they’re going to be their best person when times are tough. Reality can be quite different when the pain kicks in or dynamics change.

But at this point after countless emergencies while being the one to stand up in the end to carry the sisyphean boulders, the truth is people are going to stand back in a panic when shit hits the fan and I’m going to be the one to figure things out.

Best compromise I have settled on is surrounding myself with people who will help when I ask. It’s up to me to ask, plan, and keep all our heads above water, which is exausting, but they won’t blow me off.

It’s the best I have been able to find of the available optional combination of traits in people i find attractive. 🙃

Do you have a movie or show as an example specifically or just a general “can”?

My question would be how much of this is actors no longer being completely subjected to the gross wims of the director. How many scenes had little to do with a story and felt more like the director using the opportunity to make pretty people obey them.

We have intimacy directors now and what may also be happening is individuals having more say in production and in their bodily autonomy and I don’t see that as an issue particularly.

Did random sex scenes really hit the level of art for you folks? Is pornography art the same way? 🤔 You know both are made for mass sale and consumption usually, the same way, much more than trying to make content to say anything.

But um “it so bad we block the titties!” or whatever is popular to say. Even though i personally don’t remember many that added anything story related. Show me them bonding in a real way, sex doesn’t cement anything if you’ve ever had a cheating partner, but a real collection of moments spent together between them that shows understanding and sacrifice for each other can really have an impact.

Does he currently get money if you use JavaScript like the Brave CEO gets for his products?

Who needs to fix things from the ground up when you can just throw in more and more code! You can just fix it with more code!

I would think you’d understand needing to stop and fight for justice is a little more youthful than moving on, not putting a stake in something that’s really objectively a waste of your time and energy vs organizing your own space that accomplishes what you want?

Or is it easier to white knight and try and demand other spaces cater to you specifically?

Explicitly you were upset you were properly moderated, then grew indignant. The internet doesn’t exist to make you comfortable, especially in your errors. Now, at this point, you’re just kind of the stereotype “takes online so seriously they’re the other side of the troll horseshoe” because i don’t think you would grandstand so hard in a public space about being told you made a mistake.

Of course, maybe you would and have lived a privileged life where everyone always bent to you, and that’s another situation entirely. Being uncomfortable for the first time can be upsetting, and tbe internet does allow you to rant in ways i don’t think you would in a real dynamic with people you saw as real and equals in their own space that you entered voluntarily.

Do you typical get defensive when you make mistakes and people correct you or do you find this particularly hard not to feel like your ego was attacked?

The people here do like to be snarky, but welcome to the internet? Especially when someone makes themselves an amazing target by sulking or pouting. Kids always love to pick on the kid with no emotional regulation, and humans dont change much from childhood.

Lemmy is a little hard to understand at first and I am sure plenty of people get embarrassed, but do you ever find you catch a lot of flies with that vinegar or does it just make you feel better to act out?