I’m a lady, and think that the expectation that men ought not be too emotional is absolutely damaging and unreasonable and am not sure how it still persists.

The second shift - get yourself a single dad, ladies! And a cleaning service for the biweekly bigger cleaning. I don’t have that problem. We do each have half a second shift because that stuff doesn’t go away, but it’s shared, and I didn’t need to explain that it exists.