So I’ve been trying to figure out my sexuality and what sort of stuff I like, and I’ve stumbled upon a bit of a roadblock; I just don’t find vaginas or dicks that attractive. If I’m watching some porn or whatever and they zoom in to people’s junk, that’s a bit of a turn off. Honestly they just look like messy meat to me.

So I figured I’d ask; do you like dick/vagina pics? How much does it matter for how attractive you find someone?

… And you know what, since I’m asking things, shaven or unshaven?

  • norimee@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    I honestly think you shouldn’t look at porn to figure out your sexuality. What you see there, is not how real life works and that you are not attracted to zoom-ins on pornstar genitals doesn’t say anything about how you feel about the real thing in the right situation.

    How much does it matter for how attractive you find someone?

    Its the other way around. If I find someone attractive in the first place determines how much I’m into their penis/vagina. Its way differnt, if you are into a person or if you are watching random people on screen.

    Edit to add: trimmed

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      2 months ago

      I honestly think you shouldn’t look at porn to figure out your sexuality

      This.

      I find sexuality hard to remove from a person and a situation. Not finding something attractive on a screen doesn’t mean you won’t find it attractive in person.

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    To me, they’re like the sun. Great when it’s out, sucks to stare at. Id say you’re fairly normal. I also like shaven.

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    Bi guy. In real life, I find vulva and penis beautiful and fascinating, as every inch of my partners’ body, and I never saw ugly genitals.

    What attracts me is a pretty face, a clear consent, and our sensuality when we’re skin to skin. At this point, genitals don’t change anything. (For penis, lenght or girth can make some positions easier or harder, but it’s not a matter of attraction).

    About shaven or unshaven, I prefer trimmed. I love giving oral sex, and it’s less enjoyable when there’s too much hair. If my partners prefer themselves shaved, I don’t care. I understand there’s a social pressure, and all I want is them to feel comfortable with their body.

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    I find the closer you zoom in the less sexually apealing genitals are, so yeah those extreme closeups in porn where all you can see is their junk turns me off. That said I find both penises and vaginas sexually attractive, so a more attractive set of genitals makes me more attracted to them, just like more attractive boobs or legs or eyes or asses would. Genitals look best when they are accompanied by the rest of the person, especially their face.

    I personally prefer shaven. I’ve never really been a fan of hair in general, probably due to me growing up in a house with 3 women with long hair and finding it balled up in the most disgusting places. I find a hairless set of genitals to feel so much cleaner and enjoyable to touch. I feel like I can connect with my partner so much better without any hair in the way.

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    Firstly, unshaven everytime. Secondly, I (straight man) don’t find genitals in and of themselves attractive generally. When watching pornography I’m more attracted to the whole of a woman (no pun intended). Her face, her body, her vibe all play a role into it. And thats just porn, in person requires a novel of an explanation

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      For me a gay man it’s the same but for men of course. Penises aren’t attractive. I find men in underwear way more exciting.

      Trimmed or shaven. At least maintained.

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        Nobody wants their partner to look like one of those yards YouTubers mow for free

  • Blue🩵@lemmynsfw.com
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    I do like genitals. Although I would say I am straight, I enjoy looking at both vagina and penis. It really depends on the picture/video, if it’s pleasant to my eyes, like hygiene is the biggest factor, but context and quality/lighting as well.

    The different shapes, sizes, colors, it’s interesting and I must admit that I really enjoy the different colors my partners vagina has, as well how her labia minora pokes a bit outside. I find it really beautiful and I do like to say it’s like a rose.

    To answer you about shaved or not, I am more inclined to shaved, but I do enjoy not shaved as well.

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    Not isolated images of genitals, no. I like them in the context of a whole person. I don’t find them a turnoff or anything, it’s just silly looking when they do the closeups.

  • pleasejustdie@lemmynsfw.com
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    I love vaginas. I prefer shaven and showered and my mouth waters. Dicks… I don’t find any feelings to the ones that aren’t physically attached to me. But vagina… freshly cleaned spread before me is a meal I can’t turn down. Fortunately my wife and girlfriend both don’t mind that about me at all.

  • SmuttyLad@lemmynsfw.com
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    Sort of yeah. I find myself attracted to one set, and have an aversion to the other.

    However, the attraction sort of hinges on the idea that they are attached to a person. Even with a close-up, the mind imagines that there is a person, and I prefer a complete view to a close-up. I’m not attracted by sex-toys of the appropriate shape.

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    I wouldn’t like isolated versions, clips or images for genitalia for sure . I rather love it as a whole package that comes along with it . Sometimes of course there are exceptions when the thing at hand is too good not to be looked at, but most of the times I fancy a plot behind the stimuli. For sure , a good package does indeed look good on guys, but that won’t be the criteria of judging how attractive that person is.

    Also shaven - It just looks better IMO. Multiplies the sexual quotient manifold if it’s a good looking popsicle , melting in the summer …

  • Pollux@lemmynsfw.com
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    2 months ago

    Yes, I find genitals generally the most sexual part of a human body, no matter dick or vagina.

    Though different people have different preferences. As a general rule of thumb among the people I know, men are much more likely to find genitals and breasts in particular attractive, and women more commonly enjoy the visualization or fantasies of what is actually done with less regard to what is shown, and more commonly find more explicit images to be quite meh or a turn off. But there are indeed exceptions to both.

    Also, shaven.

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    2 months ago

    I definitely find vaginas attractive, some more so than others. I prefer longer inner labia, but if its on someone I already find attractive otherwise it doesn’t really matter.

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    I don’t think ever seen a penis that I didn’t find at least a little attractive, at least when its hard. Except maybe with piercings or excessive tattoos.

    I think completely shaven penis/balls looks weird, I prefer trimmed.

  • Cmack@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 month ago

    I’m straight and love looking at pussys but also like watching big cocks, especially bbc, but also bwc.