Hi, so I have one of those rechargeable wand vibrators and love it as a whole, but I feel like I’m just desensitised to it now. I’m looking for a new one but have no idea what to get. The clot sucker ones sound good but I don’t want to waste money for not much oomf in return. Thanks

  • Monument@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
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    20 days ago

    The advice for most hobbies is to buy the best tool(s) you can reasonably afford for your use case.

    And I’d say same for sex toys, too. Buy some cheapos of various types to try them out if the price is right (and the materials aren’t sketchy).

    You may want to try to figure out what sort of sensation you enjoy the most, and then search for toys that provide that sensation or can augment the sensations you already have. If what’s lacking with your handheld wand is, well, a penis, maybe you could try a ‘thruster’ toy, instead of going for a full on sex machine. If your setup is lacking in power, an original (corded) hitachi wand that’s plugged into a motor speed controller would do the trick. If it’s control, then maybe a good quality bullet vibe, like the we-vibe touch.
    Of course, if it’s the vibration sensation itself that isn’t cutting it, then look at suckers, point vibrators, and whatever else that looks interesting.

    Strong recommendation for She-Vibe as a vendor right now. They tend to have pretty good stuff and not terribly overpriced.

    • DumptruckMisses@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
      2·
      20 days ago

      Thank you so much for your advice I think the clit sucker is where I’m going with, but will 100% get a machine too for obvisou reasons 😅

  • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    20 days ago

    Obligatory “Not a woman, but” comment incoming. If you’re very happy with your current vibrator it may be less that you’re desensitized and more that you’re bored with masturbation in general. If that’s the case you’ll probably find yourself in a similar position pretty soon after getting your new toy so keep that in mind as you’re looking.

    Do you have any interests or kinks that you could introduce into your routine that may provide for a bit more mental or intellectual stimulation perhaps?

    I’ll leave the actual toy recommendations to the experts, however my partner really enjoyed getting a Rabbit style vibrator that provides clitoral and g-spot stimulation at the same. It did take a bit to find the right shape that worked for her though because some were quite uncomfortable with the insertion.

    • DumptruckMisses@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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      20 days ago

      thanks for the response , i was worried someone was going to suggest this and id have to face the reality that toys arent enough anymore haha. i was considering getting one of those machines but they are out of my price range.

      I cheat alot when my partner is away so half the time i have other options, but sometimes i just want some me time.

      thanks for your suggestion though, i fear you may be right.

      • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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        20 days ago

        id have to face the reality that toys arent enough anymore haha

        I didn’t mean to cause you any distress 😅 The reality is though that doing the same thing the same way gets boring eventually. Sometimes just taking a break for a while can be enough to help reignite your enjoyment of something in the long run though.

        I don’t have one but I’ve also looked into machines before(I’m bi) and chatted with people who have them. You can find some decent ones in the $(USD)50-100 range, but you’re usually sacrificing the stability of the machine as it thrusts in that price range which can cause issues at higher speeds so it’s a tradeoff.

        I hope you find something that works for you.

        • DumptruckMisses@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
          3·
          20 days ago

          no its ok im being dramatic!

          Taking a break isnt an option, im constantly horny and playing with myself so it’s borderline addiction now haha

          ill have a look into that, thanks for messaging though

  • sirprize@lemm.eeEnglish
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    20 days ago

    Not a woman myself, but I’ve seen multiple female partners get off very intensively while using clit suckers. I’d recommend one of the cheap Satisfyer brand ones. Beware, they don’t last very long before needing spare parts or replacement. If you use them daily, they might last a year or so.