• Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
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    13 days ago

    There’s a big problem with the “women message first” gimmick, and it’s that they just don’t.

    If they don’t simply let the match expire, you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of “hey.”

    Maybe one in ten will actually send a message that genuinely starts a conversation.

    • Deceptichum@quokk.au
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      13 days ago

      I literally saw so many profiles being like “I don’t message first”, like do you even understand what the app you’ve signed up for is?

    • flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz
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      13 days ago

      Well cultural habits are slow to change. I suspect it would take some 20 years to change the dynamics such than women are always expected to make the first move.

      Bumble was well positioned to push for that change, unfortunately earning revenue has a priority, they are are a business after all. Still their gimmick got the ball rolling, we’ll see who picks it up next.

    • Vanth@reddthat.com
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      13 days ago

      you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of “hey.”

      So same result as when men message first.