Hey there! HumHub sounds pretty promising for what you’re looking for. It’s great that it has that Facebook group-style setup since it’s something a lot of people are familiar with. The community version being open-source is definitely a plus too. I’d say give it a spin and see if your family vibes with it.
Some folks cheat in online games cuz it’s a quick way to feel like a pro without the hours of practice. For some, it’s about feeling powerful or getting an ego boost. Maybe they think annoyin’ others is all part of the fun, who knows? It’s kinda sad they miss out on the real joy of playing and improving with friends.