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  • I understand this. I was underemployed for a while, so I was doing tutoring American English online. Since I was working graves, my schedule meant I ended up with clients from SE Asia, China, Japan.

    After a few months, I found better work and didn’t need to tutor as much. I cut my availability and was down to 2, then one.

    The one I still tutor is a Filipina in nursing school. Most people, when they find that out, go straight to the “I’m a creep/She wants a green card” duality.

    I get tired of explaining that she actually qualifies for permanent residency as soon as she gets her work visa. She doesn’t need me at all to come to the US to work.

    There are plenty of legitimate organizations and agencies that help Filipino nurses get jobs and visas at minimal cost above the required fees.

    She has mentioned that she’d prefer to live with me and would be open to a relationship with me, even though I am older…much older.

    I leave that last bit out when talking to folks because it makes me sound like a creep. I totally get why people would think that.

    On the other hand, an attractive, intelligent, hardworking, and fun younger woman is interested in me? It’s a challenge to say no to that.









  • Where I work, most positions do not require a background check so we have a mix of people (men, women, trans, nonbinary) with criminal convictions, including sex offenders.

    The only thing that matters is their behavior in the workplace. You get fired because of attendance or poor performance.

    The biggest problem people at my workplace are the people who try to make someones past an issue.

    Also, your statement that you “highly doubt that changed him” is very telling. Basically it shows that you are the one with the problem. Unless you have firsthand knowledge then you are trying to justify your negative feelings.

    Maybe this last time changed them. Maybe they got help. Maybe they’re in therapy and are trying to change.

    This person and your employer are under no obligation to do what you want when there is no justification other than your own personal judgement.