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Depends on your job and where you live. In the big city you generally don’t need a car. Same if you have an office job. But I wouldn’t want my colleagues to drive me around every day if I were a craftsman or sth like that…

Theory examn takes quite some practice. You got to repeat those questions over and over again for weeks. You’ve probably not put enough effort in. Get that computer program and simulate examns until you’re able to comfortably do it. If you can’t do it, maybe those summer camp driving schools are more your thing. You’ll practice together with other people for like 2 weeks straight. It ain’t cheap, though.

If you’re from a different country, maybe my advice doesn’t apply. Ultimately I think not everyone needs a drivers license.

Sure. Every few weeks I absolutely need it. Most of the times it’s the wayback machine, looking up stuff that vanished from the internet. Or what’s been on my homepage two years ago. Or what a company offered last year to compare it to the current price. Occasionally I download some old DOS games, manuals, books or audio files.

And I sometimes use the wayback machine to bypass paywalls.

Btw, solar is nuclear fusion energy. But nice play on words…

Whether she’s right or not, you’re definitely making an error here. Let me explain:

No, the first one is definitely not gaslighting. Gaslighting is making you question (perceived) reality. Like you explained further down. And in this case she might as well be insecure, or afraid of you (because of her past possibly, it doesn’t necessarily have to do with you, she could very well have past trauma from other people and fall back into that kind of thinking. Being bullied before… etc.) And something hypothetical and a subjective emotion isn’t reality, so the term doesn’t apply to this.

And I’m also not sure about the next example… If you’re getting into an argument… “Humoring her” and pushing her into a corner (argumentatively)… That’s not super healthy and straightforward. People do all kinds of things when pushed. They’ll argue and sometimes use fallacies and invalid arguments. But that’s more because you’re pushing and teasing her. Not necessarily malice or a manipulation technique. She might as well not see other responses. Judge her under normal circumstances. In everyday life, not just in the bad situations.

It feels like there also are some unhealthy vibes coming from you. You’re not really listening but set on the fact that it’s gaslighting. So you’re the opposite of open and approachable concerning what’s the ‘real’ reality. And already that isn’t a good foundation for a healthy relationship.

Obviously she’s insecure about something. Have you tried talking about that? And why she feels that way? Or are you just attributing everything to malice?

And most importantly: You have to draw a distinct line between facts and emotion. If you’re violent or what you did yesterday is a fact. That’s objective and can be either true or wrong. An emotion however, isn’t a fact. It can’t be wrong per definition. And everyone is entitled to feel things. They’re automatically correct. I can feel threatened, sad, thirsty… All kinds of things despite a situation calling for the opposite feeling. That’s how the human mind works. And sometimes feelings are counterfactual. You absolutely have to allow people to feel things.

And you have to address them. If you go ahead and say: “No, you can’t feel that way…” Now you’re the one gaslighting her. Because if she isn’t lying and really feels insecure or threatened… And you’re now invalidating her feelings and say she can’t feel that way. I’m sorry, that is gaslighting from your side! She clearly feeling something and you’re saying it can’t be true… That’s gaslighting.

The correct approach is to talk to each other. But in a healthy way. Validate her. Say you respect her and accept that she’s a human and feels things. Ask her why she feels that way because you’re pretty sure you’re not violent at all. And then for god’s sake, don’t push her into a corner and squeeze information out of her. Just listen…

So… I’m not saying she is or is not gaslighting. I’m not sure because all I know is your side. But it really feels like you’re contributing to making things worse. I also don’t attribute malice to you, you also have your past and maybe your feelings are valid because you’ve been gaslighted before and are (undestabdably) sensitive for that whole topic. And all you can do is choose how to react to that. I’d say you got to find a way to respect each others feelings, or the relationship is bound to fail.

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Hmm. I had another look on my laptop. I might have to revise my answer: I have all the 5 uBlock lists, EasyList plus EasyList Germany and EasyPrivacy… And a few smaller ones are enabled, too. BUT I don’t think those unmaintained lists I mentioned show up in uBlock anyways. So you might be fine enabling all of them.

I still think it doesn’t helps after some point… But it’s definitely not as bad as I said earlier… At some point I’ll have to brush up my knowledge.

Not necessarily. That depends on personal preference. And IMHO you should enable some language specific filter if you visit sites in other languages than English. And the third party tracking and annoyance filters. Other than that I think the default settings are pretty good as is. But I just see no reason why someone should configure their Android uBlock differnetly than on the desktop… Just use the same settings?!

I didn’t even try. As far as I know there are a few well maintained lists that also are fairly complete. They’re even split into sub-categories so you can choose to visit facebook or have mildly annoying things, or not.
Those happen to be the lists that are enabled per default in most adblockers.

And there are lists that haven’t been maintained in months or years. And lists that are known to break websites because the filtering rules aren’t that well programmed.

I don’t see any reason for me to enable those. I mean your mileage may vary and they might not do you any harm or break the specific sites you like to frequent.

I trust my computer and operating system. And there are several other keys and credentials stored on that laptop. I think it’s better for me to have a file that I can backup and understand how the encryption works, than to do some trickery to hide it mostly from me and maybe a bit from malware, or tie it to some hardware TPM device or something. I’m always not sure if I should rely on those too much.

I don’t think enabling every filter is how it’s supposed to be configured. That’s just going to make your experience browsing worse. The defaults are pretty sane. I think that’s like 2 of the big (and good) lists. You’re supposed to enable your language specific list (with the same base name as the already activated one) along with that. And maybe the speficic ones like “Annoyances” etc. But that’s it. If you also go ahead and enable all the not so good lists, that’s not making it better.

Same as for desktop.

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Yes. In professional settings that means with that degree you can expect a certain salary, and the position pays considerably less.

Colloquially it’s also used for: You’ll be bored with a task. Or waste your potential.

Seems perfectly alright. I think for HDDs, consensus is you overwrite everything and you’re fine. If you want to make absolutely sure you can do multiple passes, like 2 or 3 with different (random) data should suffice. There are a lot of myths around though, concerning wiping data.

I generally use the common, established linux utilities: ‘wipe’ or ‘shred’ or just ‘dd’ on the whole device. The Arch Wiki has a long article on Securely wipe disk. I guess nwipe is fine, too.

Terms and conditions apply if you’re using flash memory or SSDs. Overwriting them is not 100% effective. But for plain harddisks it is.