Maybe consider mailbox.org. It is cheap, supports custom domains and is hosted in Germany.

If you are willing to consider commercial products, I can recommend Synology DiskStations (at least the plus series). Samba shares are quite easy to setup, you can use Synology Drive to sync a folder between workstations and Android phones which I use for Obsidian for note taking. They also have calendar options, but I use a hosted account at posteo for that.

If you want to stick to nextcloud but don’t want to host it, you could consider Hetzner Storage Share. It’s fully managed and worked great for me so far. But I only use it to share photos with others, so not all features.

Why you chose to open a port, if you use cloudflare? Couldn’t you use cloudflare tunnel in that case?

If anyone searches for a comparable alternative for Signal, I can recommend https://github.com/bepaald/signalbackup-tools. You can export a backup in Signal Android and decrypt it and export HTML with that cli. It even offers search via Javascript.

If you get a bit deeper into virtualization you might want to consider proxmox. Proxmox can just backup entire VMs and restore them.