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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Random thoughts

    It could have more to do with your middle bit of the sentence you uttered? “…or on that guys d…” It was probably just an off the cuff phase for you, but directed to the only lady in the group it could come off as you admitting you had feelings about her and now that you see her with another dude that you don’t have a chance and are throwing a tantrum bc you can’t be with her. That can seem like a betrayal of what she thought was truly just a really good friendship was instead you just scheming longterm to get with her. That’s not just a loss of good friend, but also causes a questioning of every prior encounter.

    Other options include her assuming you were shaming her for her choice in men (real or imagined), or that you essentially said you don’t care about her regardless of what she does (right now or ever). It could also be her thinking this was your true self since you were so drunk, rather than this is the drunkest you’ve ever been and your grasping at any phrase to help the person understand your literal room spinning point of view. Not saying any of this is the answer as to why she ended the friendship. Simply giving a few alternatives to consider that might be more in the broken ceramic plate territory.

    Great job on apologizing and giving space! Congrats on the sobriety!






  • It will likely scare them the first time as it’s new/unfamiliar, but they’ll begin to normalize it with repeated events (as long as there is no physical/situational aggressiveness toward them). Once they acclimate to the singing, they might still get a small jump scare if you begin abruptly belting out something, but as you continue the song they would likely relax back down recognizing it as not a danger. I find most pets will try to hide/runaway when they don’t like a sound, so indifference from a pet is akin to general acceptance of your presence imo.

    Here’s wishing you a wonderful performance!