Some personality problems, like abandonment issues or low IQ, I think of as due to genetics or adverse childhood events not the fault of the person…other traits like being a person who litters or being greedy I think of as personal failings - my questions is where would you put attention seeking behaviors like being super entitled about your wedding or lying about traumatic events?
Are these caused by social problems, and if so what might they be? Or are they just people wanting attention because it feels good and they feel entitled to do whatever they have to to get it? I have cognitive dissonance on this and am curious to hear other people’s take and why.
The wedding thing I think it’s privilege and narcism.
The trauma thing could be a mix, meaning either/or, or a combination. I’m sure someone that was deprived could become an attention seeker.
Society is weird. What is society? Is this an image of what society is based off of mainstream life? Because mainstream life is pretty much 40% of reality (obviously not a fact). So many people are completely unaware of the reality of others. It can be pretty dumbfounding to see “mainstream” culture and how entitled it is. A lot of people are practically unconscious and on autopilot because they were never in a position to become grounded in reality. For example consumerism. Just look at someone that is into brand-name everything. Some people like nice quality things, others literally think those things define who they are because they have no understanding of their self or who they actually are.
It doesn’t even have to be mainstream culture either. Basically any culture people narrow their life into instead of broadening the view of reality of humanity as a whole.
So I guess… Society plays a role in not properly teaching people the broadness of humanity, but at the same time it’s something a human should naturally be able to become aware of by gaining experience and wisdom. Society doesn’t really reward experience or wisdom so it kinda gets put off as something unneeded for survival.
A lot of people, youth particularly, and not just youth in this current time but youth during past times as well, are entitled because they are taught reality is something it really isn’t. Life isn’t a special happy go lucky place like schools put in our heads. There’s so many people out there, grown adults, that would probably buckle and put a bullet in their head if they experienced what some youth experience daily. When the privileged kids see what reality is really like they act out with “entitlement” of what they were falsely promised. Society hid reality from them. They have the right to be pissed off about it, just the same as the people that live the raw reality have the right to be pissed off at the other side. Neither side of youth are to blame for this. Society basically fucks them up and then gets mad at what they’ve created. I always like the metaphor of a person covering a young plant with a bucket and then wondering why it didn’t grow successfully.