• southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    10 months ago

    That really is one of the best parts of being with someone that will let you be vulnerable as a guy.

    We talk about toxic masculinity online, but can can you imagine having to keep that front of “manly man” up even when you’re in bed with your spouse/SO? How fucking cruel a world that is.

    Sometimes, when you’re a man, you end up having to shove all that stress down so you can handle things. Having someone that not only recognizes that, but reaches out to help when it’s finally safe to let go of the bullshit is just miraculous. Not having to be the big spoon, to have someone comfort and shelter you, to be your strength when you’ve run out of it. That’s beautiful.

    • MacN'Cheezus@lemmy.todayOPEnglish
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      10 months ago

      Indeed, it seems that many women have a hard time relating to how difficult it is to be a man in the modern world, especially when you’re being told you are undesirable, toxic, and expendable literally everywhere you go these days.

      That’s why I love this meme though, because instead of fighting fire with fire and demonizing or disparaging women, it encourages a more tender and wholesome solution to the problem.

  • JoshuaSlowpoke777@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I mean, I agree with the meme completely, but I’d also want to turn around in their arms and cuddle them right back. I’m a fan of both hugging and being hugged, and it might be a sensory thing.

    • Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca
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      10 months ago

      I’m not huge of cuddling and tend to get overheated easily when I do, but I find it really pleasurable (non-sexually) when my wife runs her finger/fingernail on my hand or arm. Just light touch in general feels incredibly stimulating, but it’s kind of a weird thing to outright ask for so I just kind of enjoy it when it comes around. I also like when my kid steps on my arms or legs when climbing on me. I should probably look into massage therapy.