Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I’m curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

    • Clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
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      5 months ago

      He does sound like a tool.

      I’m not sure what I meant either, I’ll just remove it. I’m sure I had a brilliant thought behind it at the time!

        • Clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
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          5 months ago

          I have heard of Male Gaze with capital letters, but I was asking more about y’alls experience noticing eyeballs on you rather than how THEY perceive you. Using words that have a more specific defined meaning is probably more evidence for “Pidgin needs to think before writing”.

          I presume this is the video you meant. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MTtYyZ1zd8

          I never saw Birds of Prey because Suicide Squad was so bad! Maybe it deserves a watch. I do notice the usually unnecessary sexiness in movies.

      • davidagain@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        I wanted to learn more about women’s perspective on this. Sometimes my “don’t be a dick” plan needs more detail, and being more aware of what kind of behaviour is problematic might steer me better. I’ve heard the phrase male gaze but I don’t think I fully understand what is meant by it, and I feel your question may point to and illuminate a kind of discrimination that I want to avoid.

    • mortemtyrannis@lemmy.ml
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      5 months ago

      If I broke down and you came to help me I wouldn’t care if you were wearing a full fursuit.

      I’d be thanking you to no end.