So awkward, but come on it says right there on the package to wash those mushrooms or whatever it is… You’re not their mom but you don’t wanna eat feces or whatever ended up on the produce. A quick rinse is never going to be perfect but it’s better than nothing.

In the absence of legitimate suggestions, commiseration is welcome too 😉

  • mozz@mbin.grits.dev
    252·
    13 days ago

    It’s okay to be direct a little bit.

    “You don’t wash the mushrooms? It says on the package, man, they might have poop or pesticide or whatever else.”

    “Okay, well if I’m gonna be eating them can I wash them? I’ll make 'em up, man, I’m not telling you what to do. But I don’t wanna eat anything that’s on them that might be bad for me. I would prefer not to at least.”

    I don’t know, you can adapt the language, or stay away from the whole conversation if it really feels wrong. But usually if there’s an issue it’s better to say what the issue is even if it’s a little uncomfortable. You’re not making a problem or starting a confrontation, it’s just saying what’s on your mind and sharing. Otherwise you don’t really have friends and allies, just sort of alien people you’re going through the motions with while you each harbor your own little secret thoughts all through the evening.

    • EatATaco@lemm.eeEnglish
      23·
      13 days ago

      “You don’t wash the mushrooms? It says on the package, man, they might have poop or pesticide or whatever else.”

      When we make something about the other person, telling them that they are wrong and, in this case, even disgusting, they are going to get offended and be less amendable to seeing your side and helping you out. They may get shamed into doing it, but I think this damages the relationship.

      Just make it about yourself

      “Hey, Im a bit squeamish about unwashed veggies. Do you mind if I rinse them for you?”

      Gets the same point across, but makes it about yourself rather than the other person, so they have no reason to be defensive. They will also be more likely to open up to changing.

  • Toes♀@ani.social
    10·
    14 days ago

    Probably the only way is to help prepare with them or talk to them about it.

    I gave a friend of mine a hard time for not rinsing off the soap before putting them out to dry.

    Edit: Their dishes, not their food.

      • Toes♀@ani.social
        6·
        14 days ago

        Oh my, I missed a word there. I meant to say they were doing that with their dishes. haha

      • DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social
        2·
        13 days ago

        Just to be clear for people trying to learn:

        Vegetable rinse/soap products aren’t particularly necessary. Vegetables won’t have the oily coating skin does/can.

        You do, however, need to scrub it. It’s honestly a bit of a Catch-22 because if you don’t also clean the vegetable brush every time, guess what’s now a bacterial buffet?

  • ditty@lemm.eeEnglish
    9·
    12 days ago

    “hey, sorry to seem rude, but I am a little neurotic about this, I recently got sick from eating some unwashed vegetables so now I’m trying to be hyper vigilant, can I wash these really quickly?”

  • grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world
    9·
    14 days ago

    This is a tricky one. I think I’d just offer to help them prepare and then specifically ask to be put on vegetable duty. One of my aunts is like this, doesn’t wash veggies, doesn’t rinse the soap off her dishes once she’s scrubbed them (!), so whenever I’m at her house I just offer to help.

      • grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world
        71·
        14 days ago

        No she’s not. The water is very unclean, super soapy, and she does it “to save water”. There is often soap residue on the glasses and probably the dishes too, you can just see it easier on the glass. She wonders why she’s had stomach issues most of her adult life.

        This is also the woman who once let a turkey thaw in her fridge, which then leaked raw turkey juice (bloody water) onto a half slice of watermelon that was on the shelf below it. She then ate the watermelon after washing it off in the sink “because it was wrapped in plastic and was still ok.” It was not ok, she got food poisoning.

        I think she’s just unhygienic and has an “I’m always right” Boomer mentality.

  • FreudianCafe@lemmy.ml
    61·
    14 days ago

    Throw up on their vegetables. That wont come as rude, and certainly you wont have the problem of eating with them again in the future

  • BigMikeInAustin@lemmy.worldEnglish
    22·
    14 days ago

    There are sides dudes so manly that when they go to the bathroom they thoroughly wash their hands before doing their business, but not afterwards.

    Now you know why the cold and the flu and now COVID will never go away.