This is also an autistic thing of being more logical in reasoning.

I only got diagnosed at age 30, and had some bad relationships due to me wanting truth and them feeling personally attacked by my questions.

Could be why it took you some time to realise, as most neurotypical people think in past experience for reasoning. https://psychcentral.com/autism/why-people-with-autism-are-more-logical#autism-and-logical-thinking