Five days ago, drag was banned from !politicalmemes@lemmy.world for using neopronouns. A comment explaining drag’s pronouns, and a comment saying “drag” isn’t a nickname, were removed with the reason “trolling”. Drag understands why someone would think that using different pronouns than most people is trolling - transphobia. However, drag is confused how on earth not liking a nickname is a violation of any rules anywhere.
Context of the removed comments:
Drag would like to pre-empt any further accusations of trolling by asking a question: If drag were a right wing troll, and you chose to freely accept drag’s pronouns, wouldn’t that completely neuter the trolling attempt? Trolling is about trying to make others upset. You don’t have to get upset when someone uses unusual pronouns. If you aren’t transphobic, then it’s impossible to troll you that way. And drag promises: drag wants you to not be transphobic. Drag is not trying to upset anyone. If you do what drag wants you to do, then you get what you want too. This is a non-issue, there’s only a problem if you want there to be.
EDIT: DRAG DID NOT TELL ANYBODY TO USE DRAG’S PREFERRED PRONOUNS.
Drag didn’t change the topic to dragself. Someone else decided to interrogate drag about drag’s pronouns. Would you have preferred drag ignore them? Denigrate the question and tell them to go away, because drag doesn’t want to discuss that topic? That’s how drag felt, but drag chose to be polite, and now you’re mad at drag for that.
It’s really confusing because you seem to be using “drag” both for yourself and other people as well, so I’m having a hard time reading what you are saying. Even AI doesn’t know what exactly to make of this word salad so if I got it wrong I apologize. However this is also likely the reason why people thought you were a troll, many trolls or spammers post incomprehensible word salad as part of their whole thing.
They actually weren’t interrogating you, they pointed out that referring to oneself in the third person is cringe, which it is. They were also pointing out that your use of “drag” would typically be seen as a nickname in the contexts you’re using it. That’s how language works, other people have to be on the same page about language otherwise communication doesn’t happen. And personalized first person pronouns aren’t a thing in English because they just don’t work well and make sentences hard to understand.
Then there is your history which is the fact that you’ve been having these fights with other people (i.e. @FlyingSquid@lemmy.world claimed in the thread that you’ve been harassing him about this stuff) which does factor in to the judgement that this is trolling. Add to that the fact that your username “dragonfucker” doesn’t help your credibility, in this perception of you, and even though you changed the display name and can’t change your username it still doesn’t help your cause.
As an example, if a person named Joe posts a discussion thread about the implications of trans women in sports as a neutral discussion it’ll probably be fine. If a person named trump4prezi2025 posts it they’ll probably get a lot more negative responses than they otherwise would because their username affects how people see them. In your case your provocative and profane username combined with your past behavior leads many people to think you are a troll, and therefore to ban you from communities, and in one case (dubvee.org) an entire Lemmy instance.