If their eyes do that, they might be autistic.
Source: am autistic.
My eyes always do this and I was diagnosed with ADD as a child after an IQ test. Teachers before always accused me of being dishonest and I got into all sorts of trouble because of it.
a lot of people still read me as dishonest
Try reading to the final panel.
I did. What I said still applies.
It’s a fun subject to talk about regardless. The final panel makes it funny, sure, but I imagine a lot of people like discussing their variety of social quirks with others… and this definitely provides the opportunity.
Alternatively, another social quirk that exists is responding before fully processing something… replying to an email / comic / thread before reading the content completely… THAT is typically a behavior seen in people with ADD.
Came here to say this. It’s so hard to look at someone in the eyes.
I don’t know where to look! It’s so awkward.
It’s actually both.
Allists! Your eyes are not that interesting! They’re boring to look at 10 minutes straight.
Or theres a FUCKING SPIDER ON THE CEILING
Depends. Is it cute?
And if their arms or legs are crossed, they’re probably feeling cold.
Source: am cold.
There’s a variety of reasons - some social, some have to do with memory. Brain wiring is weird. When recalling conversations with people I will ‘half insert’ them into the physical space and make eye contact with ‘them’ as I would have in the original conversation. For me it helps with recollection; for the other parties involved I may as well be addressing ghosts.
Had me ready to rant until the last frame… well played.
Youtube Title: “Top CIA agent reveals TOP TEN telltale signs a SUSPECT is LYING”
Thumbnail: a person doing normal things like… scratching head… or touching face
🙄
Also fuck those “crime stories” youtube channels where the narrator keep mentioning the suspect’s “body language” like if its indicative of anything.
Like bruh, they already read the results of the case, of course they know that the suspect is guilty/innocent, that “body language” is just hindsight.
What they won’t say is that it has nothing to do with any specific body language. You know how some people talk with their hands?
Well everyone has little things like that. In poker they call it a “tell” but that’s still inaccurate compared to what interrogaters are really doing.
They can’t actually tell if anyone bullshits or not. They have facts about the case, or in the CIA example they have intelligence. They use lie detectors and what not to create anxiety in the
victimsuspect/asset. When someone is in sufficient fear, they will let information slip because the brain literally loses control over itself. Too much fear, like in torture, and the brain will force the person to choose whatever answer it feels like will result in self preservation.Watching American true crime is painful when we are used to the UK system. Hang on you used a fucking polygraph? Are you actually serious? May as well just go “yeah that guy is giving me bad vibes, so I told him what to say to confess”. Meanwhile in the UK they look for actual evidence and can’t just tell you what to say to make a confession to something you didn’t do.
Stuff like "You said you were at home and have never met them, this evidence shows your DNA on the victim. How can you explain that? "
I have no concept of a law enforcement agency that does anything outside of try to coerce those society has deemed “problematic” into creating additional problems for themselves.
So, funny thing: a person’s body language may or may not tell you something about what they’re feeling, but it absolutely has an impact on how you perceive them. When you get advice to make eye contact, or not cross you arms, or ball your hands into fists and cock your arm (no, dude, I wasn’t being aggressive; body language theory is such bullshit), it’s saying less about what your internal mental state and more about how you’re non-verbally communicating to others.
The bullshit part about body language isn’t that it’s not valid, because it is. The bullshit part is that there’s some key that let’s you interpret it unambiguously.
Some people avert their eyes when they lie. Some when they’re disinterested. Some because they have social anxiety. I do it because I simply can’t think clearly when I’m staring into someone’s eyes, because I’m too busy drinking their souls. But when someone is talking and you avoid eye contact, whatever your reasons, they will tend to feel as if you aren’t interested.
Anecdote time! The aunt of a friend was a local politician when Bill Clinton was running for re-election, and he stopped in town, gave a speech and mingled, so she got to meet him. She said his most amazing characteristic was that, when you were taking to him, you felt as if you were the only person in the room. He had no distractions, his eyes didn’t wander to more important people, he wasn’t thinking about other, more important things: when he talked to you, he had all of his attention focused on you, and was only listening to and talking to you.
That’s what I think of when I think of effective body language. Regardless of what really was going on in Clinton’s head, when he talked to someone, he was able to make them feel as if that’s all he was doing: listening to and talking to them.
No idea why you were downvoted. Solid analysis!
Lol your aunt just wanted to fuck Bill Clinton and you turned it into a life lesson on body language.
Oh, come on… everyone wanted to fuck Bill Clinton. Don’t be shy.
Funnily enough, I feel like in most social situations people would think I was insane or overfocused on them if I kept steady eye contact - which I easily could. But I consciously decide to let my eyes wander every now and then to let them feel less pressure. Because honestly I doubt that the cashier or my daughter’s kindergarten teacher wants me to think that I talk to them like they are the only people in the room and I am 100% focused on them. I especially prefer looking “to the side” when I listen because I am way too scared for people to think I am a maniac who wants to make them my whole world.
And as you see you didnt say you are a body language expert and you seem like one so i guess the comic was right.
What’s disappointing is that body language can definitely help to determine how people are feeling or what they are thinking, but the people who are into it the most just seem to forget it’s not a foolproof method to completely determine the truth.
I just don’t know what to do with my hands most of the time and sometimes shoulder pain…
Shoulder pain. I tuck my hands under my arms in such a way to kinda prop my shoulders into a position of comfort. Pretty much everything I do is just looking for the position of comfort all the time. I get some anxiety like most people from time to time, but my mannerisms are for every situation. Comfort is key.
This comic is perfect. I was starting to get annoyed after the second panel and it did exactly what I was thinking.
What’s it mean if I never break eye contact and maintain a blank expression?
