I’ll start: if they have hobbies it’s a green flag for sure, doubly so if their hobbies are outlets for creativity.

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    7 months ago

    Ugh, this one hurts to read. I have plenty of hobbies and interests, but for whatever reason it feels so painful and awkward to discuss them with people i’m not already decently acquainted with, so it probably comes across as you describe to many folks.

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      7 months ago

      Probably not, to be like the people I mentioned and met you almost have to try to be as disinterested as possible. If you say more than just 1 or 2 words when talking to somebody you’re already a lot better.