It’s all a bit of a cope, deep down there is this primal call that isn’t easily shrugged off. Well for some at least. I know that it will get stronger for me and stronger with each year.
I am not saying the purpose of humans nowadays is to make children nor that we should be reduced to such concepts but… it’s not easy to escape millions of years of evolution. It is definitely going against everything that screams “multiply” deep down and that will take mental health toll
The only primal call I have is to fuck. I could not care less about actually having a kid as a result. If anything seeing how having kids has affected my friends ability to do so has made me want them even less.
Agreed. Never had any desire to have kids, still don’t. (The wife wants them, though.)
That said, when we had a pregnancy scare last week, my first thought was “well I’m 36; guess it’s time anyway”.
She was not pregnant. Which was relieving, because I don’t think it’s a wise decision to have children in today’s political landscape. That said, if it happens, it happens. I don’t think I’d have a meltdown over being a dad like I would have in my 20s.
As a parent to a little one right now… I can say that I rarely felt the “drive” to have kids. My SO was really let down that my initial reaction was anxiety over finances, for example.
That said, I don’t know if anything else could ever give me the kind of joy and happiness that just being able to love on my kid has brought me. If something happened to her I would be devastated.
But I also recognize that I’ve had to sacrifice a lot of personal freedom to be a good dad. I would never downplay that to “trick” people into wanting to be parents. It’s definitely a tradeoff, and especially difficult financially these days.
It’s all a bit of a cope, deep down there is this primal call that isn’t easily shrugged off. Well for some at least. I know that it will get stronger for me and stronger with each year.
I am not saying the purpose of humans nowadays is to make children nor that we should be reduced to such concepts but… it’s not easy to escape millions of years of evolution. It is definitely going against everything that screams “multiply” deep down and that will take mental health toll
The only primal call I have is to fuck. I could not care less about actually having a kid as a result. If anything seeing how having kids has affected my friends ability to do so has made me want them even less.
Agreed. Never had any desire to have kids, still don’t. (The wife wants them, though.)
That said, when we had a pregnancy scare last week, my first thought was “well I’m 36; guess it’s time anyway”.
She was not pregnant. Which was relieving, because I don’t think it’s a wise decision to have children in today’s political landscape. That said, if it happens, it happens. I don’t think I’d have a meltdown over being a dad like I would have in my 20s.
That’s how the instinct works for guys. Then you have a little person to protect and it changes
Yup. Imagine a portable hype beast that loves all the same stuff you do.
No thanks. I’ll watch out for other people’s kids if I’m around them but I don’t want to revolve my life around it.
As a parent to a little one right now… I can say that I rarely felt the “drive” to have kids. My SO was really let down that my initial reaction was anxiety over finances, for example.
That said, I don’t know if anything else could ever give me the kind of joy and happiness that just being able to love on my kid has brought me. If something happened to her I would be devastated.
But I also recognize that I’ve had to sacrifice a lot of personal freedom to be a good dad. I would never downplay that to “trick” people into wanting to be parents. It’s definitely a tradeoff, and especially difficult financially these days.