Live your life according to your own schedule and speak your actual truth.

Last time I tried this approach they made me feel like shit and bullied me.

actually I don’t agree.

To me this is deflection: they ask me something I don’t want to answer, I lie to them and try to stay away from them: I don’t disclose anything about me, they don’t feel offended, don’t start drama and leave me alone.

Gossips are gonna gossip no matter what I say, they need it, so I’d better disclose false information so they can attack me the least.

My strategy if they ask me again about my age if they suspect I lied to them or if they hear from other gossips my real age: lie again or say a ludicrous number. If they keep pestering me, remind them to go to work and go to work.

Sometimes I think I should work somewhere else.

I’ve never really had a problem.

then my coworkers are all busybodies who don’t know what boundaries are.

Still, answering ‘how old are you’ with ‘none of your business’ seems overkill. I just want them to leave me alone.

everything’s good, I didn’t understand your /s

yeah, 40 and unmarried. I’m so lonely. I scream and cry myself to sleep every night. I drink 5 gallons of vodka just to make it thru a shift.

I imagine myself using your answers with my coworkers, who are gossips and they replying how rude I am, feeling outraged and refusing to help me with my job.

The thing is, I’d use this answer with people that separate their private life from their jobs, but where I am, and in nursing in general, this doesn’t happen. And if they don’t separate both things, then they stop helping all together when they perceive you as unfriendly, meaning I have to work more.

I guess the price I pay for their help is faking interest in their lives.

I need to work somewhere else, don’t I?

do you understand that this is an emotional response and it’s kinda off to ask a person not to have trauma? do you think people like being bullied?

and that guarantees that they furiously gossip about it when I’m not around.

bullying

I respected his decision.

these coworkers do not. I wouldn’t need to lie if all coworkers were this respectful.