How much time have you spent being single?
If you’re currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?
Do you / did you enjoy single life?
What are / were the pros and cons?
Is / was partnership a goal of yours?
If you’re currently not single: Did your goals change after getting into a relationship?
What are the pros and cons?
Outside of my prepubescent years, I spent roughly 4.5 years being “Single”. I did have some partners here and there but never rose to a full relationship. I was simply a bit of a wreck after a bad relationship ended and destroyed my trust.
Ultimately, I’m a companion orientated person and a bit of a romantic. Being single isn’t the end of the world for me but I miss casual touch and someone to do things with. I make due and am generally happy and haven’t really been in the market searching for about 1.5 years now.
The pros of being single: free time, make plans with whomever, low drama, quiet life.
Cons: free time, lack of general intimacy, lack of hobby sharing, and doing things as I am companion oriented
My partnership goal would be to find someone who has some hobby interests that align with mine and likes the quiet life. At this point I won’t be having kids and marriage doesn’t feel all that important. I don’t need a document to agree to be with someone. I’d just want a place out in a rural area where we can enjoy quiet living, gardening, tinkering, and evenings with fires, jokes and the occasional hosting of people to hang out.