Usage of gendered language isn’t inherently casual misogyny. For it to be misogynistic, it must actively harm or belittle women. While I fundamentally agree with reducing gendered language where possible (as I am a NB gender abolitionist myself), I don’t think a silly meme on Lemmy is worth getting overly concerned about. It makes the whole movement look pedantic.
It may not be intentional, not plenty of women feel harmed, belittled, and ignored by the use of language like that. So we should stop using it. It doesn’t add anything, and it does, in fact, harm people.
And for the record, it’s not the meme, it’s the title of the post. I just think that making the explicit or implied assumption that you’re talking to a bunch of dudes whenever you post online is just not helpful, that’s all.
It may not be intentional, not plenty of women feel harmed, belittled, and ignored by the use of language like that. So we should stop using it. It doesn’t add anything, and it does, in fact, harm people.
I understand your concern about the unintentional harm that gendered language can cause. While it’s true that language can affect people in non-obvious ways and I support the idea of being mindful of our words and reducing gendered language where possible, I also think it’s important to balance this with context and intent.
And for the record, it’s not the meme, it’s the title of the post
The title is a spin on the “Fellas, is it gay…” meme
Avoiding casual misogyny is also important. You should avoid using gendered language like that when there’s really no need.
Usage of gendered language isn’t inherently casual misogyny. For it to be misogynistic, it must actively harm or belittle women. While I fundamentally agree with reducing gendered language where possible (as I am a NB gender abolitionist myself), I don’t think a silly meme on Lemmy is worth getting overly concerned about. It makes the whole movement look pedantic.
It may not be intentional, not plenty of women feel harmed, belittled, and ignored by the use of language like that. So we should stop using it. It doesn’t add anything, and it does, in fact, harm people.
And for the record, it’s not the meme, it’s the title of the post. I just think that making the explicit or implied assumption that you’re talking to a bunch of dudes whenever you post online is just not helpful, that’s all.
I understand your concern about the unintentional harm that gendered language can cause. While it’s true that language can affect people in non-obvious ways and I support the idea of being mindful of our words and reducing gendered language where possible, I also think it’s important to balance this with context and intent.
The title is a spin on the “Fellas, is it gay…” meme