Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I’m curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

        • Clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
          4·
          14 days ago

          We all look at people for many reasons including sexual interest. It’s creepy when someone feels your amorous intent, I think. At least when it’s from someone with whom the subject doesn’t perceive a romantic relationship.

          • 1984@lemmy.today
            31·
            14 days ago

            Yes of course. But have you noticed how everyone assumes that men are staring and making women feel uncomfortable despite nothing like that was expressed?

            I’ve also seen jokes about dicks that everyone seem to think is funny, but when someone mentions actual attraction, the thread goes nuts. :)

          • 1984@lemmy.today
            2·
            14 days ago

            Lol, it’s just not politically correct these days. :)

            Human attraction is at the core of human existence and I think it’s silly to act like it doesn’t exist every day.

    • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world
      21·
      14 days ago

      I mean, sure, 248lbs isn’t exactly thin, especially since you never said height, but at my biggest I was 315 and could still walk.

      There has to be more going on here…I’m so confused why being that weight would confine you so much. Yes, personal hygiene does get a bit more difficult. More hard to reach places…but scrub brushes on sticks exist.

      • BreathingUnderWater@lemmy.caEnglish
        4·
        14 days ago

        Personal hygiene can suffer when you are deep in a depressive episode. Mobility might also be compromised due to a disability or chronic pain and not directly weight related.

      • Pandantic@midwest.socialEnglish
        2·
        14 days ago

        Top level comment was deleted, but I was 220 at 5’ before I lost weight and I was still very mobile, hygienic, and wearing cute clothes. Maybe they deleted because they didn’t want to talk about what else was going on.