• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    Dude, this has been a traditional way for parents to embarrass their adult children in front of their partner for decades. My wife has seen my naked baby pictures without my parents even showing them to her. And I’ve seen hers. What’s the big deal? It’s not like either of us found them sexy.

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      it’s still weird (source, i have parents), at least ask your daughter for consent first.

      I’d consider it to be a breach of my privacy otherwise.

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        They’re baby pictures. We’re not talking about something erotic here. Naked babies are not some sort of scandalous thing. In most cultures, they’re normal.

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          Taking photos of naked children isn’t, and shouldn’t, be normal in any culture I’m familiar with, and you definitely shouldn’t be showing them to anyone.

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            Well you should get familiar with Finnish culture and then start berating the Finnish guy who chimed in and said it was totally normal.

            You know what an immoral, shithole country Finland is though.

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                It’s not my fault that you reply to all of my comments and don’t bother reading other people’s. It’s right there for you to read.

                When are you going to contact lemmy.world admin to have me reported to the authorities for child abuse and the possession of child pornography?

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          i didn’t take them and i didn’t consent to them existing either. Neither did i consent to them being shown to anybody.

          Naked humans are also normal, yet we still wear clothes. babies included, weirdly enough.

          At what point does “naked baby photos” turn to “naked children photos” is my question.

          how about this. You can have your naked baby photos, you just also have to be in the photo and naked as well.

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            i didn’t take them and i didn’t consent to them existing either. Neither did i consent to them being shown to anybody.

            Based on that reasoning, I should not show anyone any photo of my child until they were old enough to consent to them being taken.

            You can have your naked baby photos, you just also have to be in the photo and naked as well.

            I’m not embarrassed by my body and if that’s what her partner really wants to see, I don’t care.

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              Based on that reasoning, I should not show anyone any photo of my child until they were old enough to consent to them being taken.

              based on that reasoning i shouldnt expose my child to the visual perception of other people who exist outside in the chance that one of them non consensually perceives my child.

              You wouldn’t expose your child naked in public, why would you expose them naked on picture?

              I’m not embarrassed by my body and if that’s what her partner really wants to see, I don’t care.

              that’s great, the implication there is that you’re still showing it to other people, and if we’re talking family and friends, i don’t know many people that would want that.

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                You wouldn’t expose your child naked in public,

                How exactly do you think someone changes a diaper at a park?

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                  i mean, most people use bathrooms. Considering that human waste is literally a biohazard, i feel like doing anything else would be quite rude at best, and arguably a crime at worst.

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                    So you acknowledge that I would, in fact, expose my child naked in public. And with good reason. And everyone could see her genitalia when I did.

                    Edit: Oh, sorry, misread. You think you can always make it to a bathroom? You have never had a baby.

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              Based on that reasoning, I should not show anyone any photo of my child until they were old enough to consent to them being taken.

              This is actually solid advice, especially as far as social media is concerned.

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                We’re not talking about social media, we’re talking about the significant other of my child. Or even relatives. I didn’t get my daughter’s permission to take her photo when she was a baby, so I shouldn’t have sent a photo to my father on the other side of the country based on this reasoning.

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          You’re really digging your heels in on showing people photos of naked children, aren’t you?

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      Chopping part of your child’s dick off has also been traditional for decades, that’s a very poor justification for that behaviour.

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        Are you really comparing showing your child’s long-term partner their naked baby pictures with circumcision?

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      Tbf child marriage is also traditional, Muhammed had a 9yo bride (it’s “ok,” he didn’t have sex with her until she was 11.)

      Defending things based solely on tradition can get pretty weird sometimes.

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        That’s a tradition that ended a long time ago. I’m talking about traditions that are ongoing. Also traditions that, despite someone else’s claim, probably don’t cause any psychological harm, at least most of the time.

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          I think you may be surprised and hopefully disturbed by this UNICEF article.

          Despite a steady decline in this harmful practice over the past decade, child marriage remains widespread, with approximately one in five girls married in childhood across the globe. Today, multiple crises – including conflict, climate shocks and the ongoing fallout from COVID-19 – are threatening to reverse progress towards eliminating this human rights violation. The United Nations Sustainable Development Goals call for global action to end child marriage by 2030.

          So no, it was not “a long time ago.” It’s “hopefully by 2030.”

          Also traditions that, despite someone else’s claim, probably don’t cause any psychological harm, at least most of the time.

          Oh, so as long as you don’t believe the person and can therefore invalidate their feelings without guilt, and it only psychologically hurts “some” people who you I suppose arbitrarily believe over the ones you don’t, it’s fine?

          Not sure I can agree with you on this one.

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            Believe what person? Hurts some people?

            I have asked for evidence that it hurts anyone and have not received it.

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              Also traditions that, despite someone else’s claim, probably don’t cause any psychological harm, at least most of the time.

              Actually you asked for nothing, you made a whole lot of assumptions instead. And

              evidence that it hurts anyone

              Here again you invalidate the feelings of those telling you with their own words that they don’t like it. The evidence they don’t like it is them telling you they don’t like it, you don’t need a scientific paper to corroborate that some people find it objectionable, you just dismiss them because you want to partake in the behavior they find objectionable.

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                I absolutely asked for evidence. I just didn’t ask you for evidence. Weird that you apparently read through my comments and didn’t see that.

                And not one person has told me that they were personally hurt by this happening to them. They have just said that it is wrong.

                You show me the person in this thread who said it caused them pain. I can’t invalidate feelings that people don’t have. Someone not liking something has nothing to do with whether or not that thing causes trauma or any sort of psychological damage to anyone unless it caused them that damage.

                And now I am asking you for evidence. Please quote the person that was hurt by their parents doing this.

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                    I do not believe that any more than I believe you are any sort of expert in psychology or understand what is legal or not legal to have on a phone.