Someone I know shows stuff such as:
- constantly needing a scapegoat
- shifting blame/cannot take accountability
- exaggerated mindset, often where other people are useless and they are the greatest
- has to maintain a very positive public image, such as being the absolute best
- does not have empathy unless it involves them or impacts their image in some way, if their image is supposed to be empathetic they will act so because of their image
- lacks empathy for people in pain/bad mental health/etc. but their image might be very upset about that
- will often be very nice to people in any sort of power
I’m asking because I’m genuinely curious if I should help, and maybe that even if they exhibit negative behaviors, they’re not a completely TERRIBLE person despite how they treat me.
Based on what I’ve seen, they sound like they could have narcissistic traits. They do sound a bit spoiled but I think it’s more than that. I’m glad you care besides their mistreatment of you/others
You are literally describing narcissism. If they are incredibly important to you then you can hope they decide to pursue cognitive behavioral therapy but IRL you cannot make them fix this. Behavioral disorders are very hard to confront especially NPD because the person with it rarely sees the issue.
nothing they do is ever their fault, and what I do is never good enough for them
yeah, makes sense.
so this is just like textbook narcissism and not just an asshole?
Im not a shrink but it seems like it. Like I said if it isn’t someone you are close to and have to have in your life I would move on.
If this is your actual problem rather than someone else then you need to talk with a therapist specializing in cognitive behavioral therapy. That road is long and difficult but you might end up happier after a few years.
she’s actually my “close friend” but I don’t consider her that for obvious reasons
Move on, people on the NPD spectrum don’t understand theor problem and you cannot do that for them.
yeah, she either apologizes because she “can’t control herself” or blames me
The Narcissist’s Prayer
That didn’t happen. And if it did, it wasn’t that bad. And if it was, that’s not a big deal. And if it is, that’s not my fault. And if it was, I didn’t mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.
YES. This is how she behaves!!
There no helping them now. They were already elected president…
I’d like to link two vids from a youtube channel which depicts neurodivergent behaviour in an accessible way. Note that these most definitely are not check lists or a diagnostic tool
Pixie-gags Sociopathy & Narcism
Ffs go look at this poster’s history. If this post is about anyone, it’s probably themselves.
They just seem like a young teen who posts advice. Maybe OP’s friend is Trump
