This is usually how I text, I wouldn’t consider myself dry but someone said I was??
My response to my friend ranting about a breakup and that she broke up with him
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Yes
Do you perhaps fathom how unhelpful and standoffish single word replies are? Conversation is an exchange. If you are not at the very least matching their verbosity and sharing information that is also related to what they’re saying, you’re giving them very little to work with.
But I usually have the opposite problem: my prose is purple as hell. I’m ridiculously verbose and I over share to an absurd degree.
damn
Yes, you’re right, but I think that was the point of that comment: to demonstrate to OP how single-word answers to questions aren’t helpful when trying to engage in conversation, by mirroring their own behavior back at them.
Are you explaining Draegur to Draegur?
I would just stop texting you
Just reading that, you come off uninterested.
I would assume you don’t want to talk to me (as in, don’t like talking to me) and are trying to end the conversation as quickly as possible. Why aren’t you asking questions? Or even writing more than one word responses? You can write formally or dry, I do, but like, you have a responsibility to uphold your end of the conversation.
If you want a conversation to continue, you need to ask questions or provide some sort of continuation. Otherwise this reads one sided.
If this is serious, you consider these people friends, and you honestly don’t see the problem with your communication here, you have two options when you receive a text message:
- Suggest meeting up
- Call them
Leaving voice messages is a potential third option, if you’re capable of expressing yourself like that.
It seems people are interested in talking to you, but you are clearly not cut for written communication. With responses like this they might not be interested in talking to you in person after either.
If you don’t feel like talking due to depression, consider telling them about this. Probably in person. Like “Hey, I’m a bit depressed, so when we meet up and hang out it takes a lot of effort from me and the stars pretty much need to align. I’m super happy to do it, but I can’t always gather the strength to. So when I’m pretty shit at texting it’s because I struggle to gather that kind of energy out of nowhere. It’s nothing personal.”
Now, what do you consider to be dry texting? Can you re-create your responses in the provided example to make them “dry” in your understanding of the word?
dude… I’m generally pretty dry, but what the fuck bro
capitalizing the first letter makes you look like you were born in the 1970s
one-word replies make you seem disinterested
You actively avoid capitalising the first letter?
Dryer than the Sahara desert
If I was Grey Texter, I’d think you were busy, uninterested, rude, or upset (When I’m upset my texts are drier than usual but I still make an effort)
Is this a serious post? Seems like a troll.
Yeah, no way this is serious.
Bare minimim add some punctuation if you are really going to stick with one word replies
“Good!” comes off happy or excited “Good?” is confused and unsure “Good.” is more serious than no punctuation
Look I’m not fantastic at conversations but adding just a little something is key to keep the ball rolling. It gives them something to go off of.
“No I didn’t do much, you?”
“I went to the mall”
“See anything cool?”
“That new movie is finally out we should see it later!”
No absolutely don’t use full stops for one word replies. It can come across as very rude.
Yeah, in this sort of context it’d just come across as trying to shut down the conversation even harder than it already does.
Seems like an issue with whoever is reading the one word text then.
