like you know you’re a good person at heart but life circumstances and trauma and bullying and etc prevented you from learning the proper social skills to find companionship. not necessarily a forum to actually find friends (i find going into things with that intention feels fake and weird), but rather a forum to commiserate and share advice and coping mechanisms and so on.
loneliness is increasing worldwide, esp in men. and it’s very easy to get into the weeds on this of course…
happy fuckin holidays
Calling some groups “incel sickos” sounds rude and hateful to me and is best practice for going to be a incel sicko. I don’t want to judge, just a friendly warning.
Against loneliness there are good advices already written. Just an addition: first, be respectful and love to yourself. Second, do the same for others.
A lot of depressed people think, that other people could repair their hearts, but that’s not true. You start by yourself, the rest comes automatic.
Calling incle sickos “incel sickos” is 100% okay and acceptable. There is no reason to shy away from calling spades spades.
There is this idea that we need to pussyfoot around calling out hateful groups so what? We don’t offend them?
No, confront it head on. You encourage that type of behavior if you shy away from confronting it.
Don’t be so open minded your brain falls out.
I.e. Karl Popper’s tolerance paradox of being intolerant towards intolerance. Or, in a less confusing way: if someone doesn’t adhere to the mutual rules set by a group of people (read “society”), those rules no longer apply to them.
Respectfully, do you know what incels are? Besides, while your advice is not wrong, I think it’s a bit too broad and OP specifically asked for places/forums. But it definitely holds some truth and utility.
I disagree that it’s rude and hateful. Incels are specifically referring to the type of lonely people who blame their loneliness on other people.
There is no way that’s a healthy mindset to be around for those who are lonely that want to improve their situation.