You sold me, I am getting tickets to the Thievery show. Wasn’t going to, so much going on. I do want to see them.

Living? Kimchi the cat, Kim Chiara Obscura. Endless kitten, gorgeous and playful and sometimes cuddly. We have 2 dogs, 2 cats, love them all but yeah she is my favorite. Luckily we have 4 humans too who each have a different favorite.

Of all time? Tie between the enormous Shepard - Akita mix dog we had, Loki, who was an utter delight and the cat who lived to 23, Max. One time my ex stood for an hour with Max on the counter, letting him sniff each of the spices individually. Opening each jar, sniffing, closing it. He always wanted to taste anything we ate and wanted us to share what he caught.

If I could have only one pet, a cat is what I’d get. But if I can have two, I would have a dog too.

We saw Cage the Elephant and while it was memorable, it was more weird than good. Basically the least sexy strip tease you can imagine, he started out in lots of clothes, layers of clothes like two pairs of pants on top of each other and ended up in running shorts - at one point awkwardly wriggling out of skinny jeans, even. They sounded great but it was kind of awful, like someone had gotten way too high and thought “you know what would be a good idea?”

Fela Kuti, with a whole company of African dancers. Absolutely transcendent. His music was so good but the whole show somehow choreographed but still so immediate and alive, beautiful and raw and wonderful.

Also close second Henry Rollins at a little club in Daytona Beach. He was acting like an asshole rock star before the show (it was a long punk festival thing) and I almost left before his set. What a mistake that would have been. The stage had chain link between band and pit, he tore it down! He was amazing, band so tight so loud so good and he is such a showman, and it really was a tiny club so it was full of energy.

C. Finish high school and do whatever she wants as an adult person.

Everything. “How far to the restaurant?” “18 cups or so”

'The music is too loud, turn it down a few cups!"

I do actually like weight better for measurements, have a scale and that IS easier, agreed. But most recipes don’t need to be so exact, and not everyone has a scale so volume measurements work. I just use a regular spoon for teaspoon and have cup measures, a small coffee cup here is 8oz, we have some of those too.

Drive By Truckers - Gravity’s Gone

Elton John someone saved my life tonight song

Gillian Welch - Everything is Free

Oh and somewhat tangential but Hayes Carll I Got a Gig song - “playing for my dinner six nights a week, hurricanes, Easter, and New Years Eve, I got a gig baby!”

There isn’t anything here yet (you can’t call 911 and get someone other than the cops, there is a helpline for people to call themselves though, a suicide prevention line that does try to put people in touch with help) and I strongly agree with you it’s not police work. Luckily she was a young white lady, sort of cop kryptonite.

Hopefully it’s better in other places but it’s a difficult problem, no way to make it an easy one.

Oh. If you are looking for an ethical line, it sounds kinda simplistic but it’s generally “are they at risk of harming themselves or others” and not “are they living in our consensual reality”.

And it does kind of suck, because that’s why our roommate got returned to us (she did later end up in the residential system, which was also a nightmare for her, but she just never regained the ability to navigate the world, and that is not uncommon with schizophrenia, it can sort of explode as people become adults) and because people who are suffering and out of touch resist treatment that could help.

When I was a teenager (1980s) parents routinely got oppositional kids hospitalized, it was a mess, there was a whole for profit industry for institutionalizing kids who weren’t really even mentally ill, Charter was the name I remember. You aren’t wrong it’s a slippery slope.

The US at large? Too diverse to have a specific cuisine but corn is a native food here, I recommend corn on the cob, either just with butter or the fancy Mexican style, and also try cornbread.

Local food, we have Cuban sandwiches and deviled crab, I didn’t know until recently that those are only served around here, despite the name these are Florida foods. Cuban sandwich is a three meat affair on Cuban bread, deviled egg is a sort of fried dough with seasoned crabmeat in the middle.

Twice. Once my roommate had a schizophrenic break, we called the police as we didn’t know what to do, they did the involuntary commitment to the emergency mental health care and they had us come get her in 3 days, because they didn’t have funding to help everyone and she at least had a place to go.

One of my (adult) step kids also suffers mental illness, she trusts me so when she was having a psychotic break I was able to get her into the car and out at the emergency room, unfortunately this was during COVID and they would not let anyone walk in with her but once she was through the doors they handled it and sent us a letter with the legal information.

Basically, if you can get them to go to the emergency room and self-commit they will have an easier time. If you cannot, here the police are the only alternative, you may have more specialized resources where you are. Hopefully. But it’s an emergency, the emergency room is a good place to start.

The ones I see online are 73 grams in the same container. Where was this purchased? And yes of course they ought to have put it in a squatty travel sized container. But this one is not the standard amount.

On the internet, not in person? Probably never. Too hard to figure out your tone.

In person? Just depends on your audience I’d guess, my actual gay friends don’t mind being called gay, or queer, or jokes about meaner words when they are meant in a gentle and friendly way, they know me and I know them so we know how to communicate. I don’t find the words useful in other contexts, really only use them to describe a person’s sexuality.

With regard to things not people? Some of the “slur” words still work. I regularly retard my sourdough bread by putting it in the fridge for a day or two, the dough is retarded, slowed down.

Most recently, Hard Working Man by Marcus King.

I can’t nap, it always makes me more tired. Long or short, it never helps.

7 hours is fine, if you wake up rested then 7 hours is perfect for you, and it’s sufficient. I like 7.5, anything over 6 hours and under 10 is normal as far as I know.

And as others are saying, waking up in the wrong part of the cycle, it’s disorienting and feels like you got less sleep. This happens to me all too often.

Femininity is something people do, not something inherent to being a woman. (Also, with regard to the way you posed your question, technically a man is a woman with different bits, not the other way around.)

I don’t know how to split out socialization from biology, honestly. Are you asking what strengths are considered feminine and are also admired by men? Probably being able to handle physical pain, being good at organizing, endurance in the face of adversity or grief. Ability to read a room, pick up on cues, make people feel comfortable.

Are you asking what strengths are admired by women, what do we consider a strength of women? You will probably get different answers from different women but I think women are often better able to consider a whole situation rather than focusing on one part of it and messing up another part; and that we are usually better at handling physical pain without whining.

If you are asking how willpower feels for me as a woman, though? In terms of deferred gratification? Probably about how it feels for you. Sometimes easy, sometimes it sucks.

You are conflating strength of character with masculinity? Why?

The answer to your question is no. Women are people, men are people. I think to some extent maybe physical fitness in anyone (anyone able -bodied) correlates with persistence and impulse control, but physical and verbal aggression correlates with a lack of impulse control and lack of empathy. So negative association with strength of character, in anyone male or female or other.

They’re not spread out like churches though. Here, it might work, we have an insane # of churches per capita and a lot of homeless, but what about LA? No way there are as many churches as homeless there. Same with houses, as someone suggests upthread. There are few vacant spaces here and many who need homes but in any state beginning with the letter I maybe there are thousands of homes and few homeless because they would freeze to death in the winter.

I mod the !cocktails@lemmy.world and in about 6 months of taking care of it, I’ve needed to take down exactly one comment. One. It’s so, so much nicer here.

I am a lady, but had the same experience. Maybe a 5 as a 20 something, average in looks and the curvy short girls win the early rounds. Always had a few guys who thought I was the best thing they’d ever seen but not “majority attractive”, understand? But just stayed in shape and waited, and, well, small don’t fall so as a 50-something relatively much better looking. It was such a a surprise.