When I get a match on a dating app, and it’s going well, I often run into the problem of not knowing how to conclude texting for the day. My social battery runs out pretty quickly when texting. Especially when I just met the other person that day. I usually just tell a white lie.

So does anyone maybe have a good line on how to end things casually, for the day? Or is this something you should tell them beforehand? Or is telling a white lie the proper way to go in this scenario?

Please let me know your thoughts on the matter.

  • jet@hackertalks.com
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    4 months ago

    That advice is from the 1950s where there were not that many options and people didn’t want to seem desperate. I like you, but not too much kinda thing.

    Do that today and you might as well disappear from the face of the earth.

    Misread your comment, I thought it was the old phone call advice.

    Meeting strangers is no big deal, I meet them all the time, just have to walk outside. At the coffee shop there is strangers in line. Talk to them too. Arranging a face-to-face shouldn’t be a big deal, it’s just like cool maybe maybe we’ll sync up

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      4 months ago

      But really in the first few messages? Again, I’m all game. But I don’t want to scare her off or something.

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        4 months ago

        You don’t have to request a dinner date or a movie or something. That might scare her off. Something quick and simple, though, shouldn’t be a problem. “Hey, there’s a Starbucks a few blocks from you, can I buy you a drink [tomorrow, whatever]? We can have a quick chat and see if we click.” Or whatever’s appropriate for your situation. You’re not asking for a prolonged thing, just a brief face-to-face meeting, and if it goes well and you decide to go get lunch or something, fine, but you don’t need to set that expectation up front.