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    I really thought this was going to be a satire post about the Yemen bombing Signal chat group leak based off the reddit title.

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    Derek sounds like a real one. That poster lacks so much situational awareness they’d fall into an open manhole like in a cartoon.

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    I thought this was going to be satire about the Atlantic editor being accidentally included in war room group chats. Lol.

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    I’ve definitely got some bleak ass humor with some friends in private but forwarding messages people sent you in private to other people and group chats? Really?

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      Depends on context. Maybe I’m not reading the OP right, but if it’s in the context of “yo guys what do I say” it’s different from “yo guys look how desperate she is lmao”

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      If you’re ever concerned that your private messages will get leaked, why send it? That seems like a you issue for trusting them.

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        The abuse of trust is the problem there, not the trust itself…

        There’s no scenario where you’re not the a-hole if you’re going to parrot something someone else told you in private, elsewhere.

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          There’s no scenario where you’re not the a-hole if you’re going to parrot something someone else told you in private, elsewhere.

          I can think of several, including the one being described in the original post

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          Seems like the finger should be pointed at you for being so naive and trusting someone so blindly?

          And reading the post, you telling me if OP was sending nudes of his girlfriend to a group chat, Derrick is the asshole here?

          Yeah alright.

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      Yeah that’s my line. Something someone told you in confidence is a shit thing to make fun of them for, forwarding it to friends is another level.

      Derek’s lame but they were shit too

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        Nah fuck that.

        If your comment was so bad that a person you both trust and respected was like, “WTF” to expose it, that’s on you.

        The whole meToo movement is based on this. Just “locker room” talk to some, but deeply disgusting sexual harassment from a small group and behavior to the other 90%.

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      I text my friends offensive shit too, but imo the only reason you can consider them funny is because it’s the exact opposite of who i am. Like i don’t even really swear irl. But shit like forwarding private messages or bullying real people is so disgusting to me. I often talk to girls from tinder, and they sometimes send me screenshots of people from tinder to make fun of them. Instant turn off and block.

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        If you’re sharing it privately, that’s your true self, the version of you unfiltered and able to avoid the consequences of actually saying it.

        Not if, but when it gets exposed by a Derek, will people look at you differently?

        You just discovered something important about yourself.

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          This is an over generalization. How can you support that this is true other than for yourself alone?

          Sometimes the unfiltered things I discuss in private are for the purpose of getting feedback. A brainstorming space without any of the regular inhibitions censoring free thought. I’m not looking for affirmation, but genuinely want to see what the unfiltered feedback would be, and am ready to change my option on a dime.

          Take this to the next level: you do this in your own mind / imagination before you speak. You think things that you don’t say. So is everything in your mind, even things you think are wrong and choose not to express, your true self? And you should be ashamed of shameful thoughts?

          Also what do you even mean by “true” self? If I act differently around different groups of people, which one is true?

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            Gonna share this again

            This commenter said it best:

            To the people who think what OP did was completely normal and something everyone does, (and I hate to use this phrase) check the “ratio” here. Nobody thinks this is normal. You and OP are in the slim minority spewing vile shit about people in your lives. It’s cruel and childish. You’d be smart to learn from OP’s predicament before you find yourself in the exact same situation with everyone you know hating you because you thought it was perfectly normal to constantly trash talk them behind their back. It’s not normal. Not everyone is doing it. Assholes like OP and apparently yourself are doing it. And it clearly can bite you in the ass. As I said in my initial comment, these kinds of things can have serious real world consequences. So you may wanna wise up and start being a respectable human being ;)

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      I love all the comments who hate Derek, obviously projecting their own shitty behavior.

      What a tell.

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    Don’t talk shit about people behind their back. It always has a way of getting out because it’s clearly how you feel when their is no filter in place.

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      I used to talk shit people to their face and compliment them behind their back. Thought it was cool. Anyways, didn’t work at the workplace.

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    I would love for my 40k groups five year group chat to be leaked. My theories about Alpharius is valid I tell you.

    Nononono, dont go! We haven’t even gotten to the part with Valdor, and the Emperor yet.

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    Thought at first that its a meme about the signal groupchat that was leaked currently and then read its discord and its 1 year old.

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      Invasion of privacy, not cool

      If you think someone is shit don’t screenshot a bunch of chats, just leave and tell people you saw stuff you didn’t like

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        What about the people on the group chat who were disrespecting other people’s right to privacy by sharing private mesaages and pictures? It’s cool when they do it?

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          Tell those particular people. Maybe screenshot those particular messages as proof. But don’t publicly share everything.

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            See, you misunderstand. You must either be enraged that there was a snitch, or uphold them as a paragon of justice. There is no nuance on the internet. Silly person.

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        Good. Don’t be an asshole to your friends behind their backs. That’s trashy behavior, and you deserve to lose your friends if you do it.

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              seriously jesus fucking christ what about this in particular is making it such a good litmus test to root out shitty people? they’re all just immediately, unironically, unabashedly identifying themselves in the comments here, just like that lmfao.

              absolute trash is absolute trash ig.