Seriously I hate that. I always fantasize about having sex with very attractive women. It really grinds my fuck gears because I know that I will be a virgin forever because prostitution is illegal in Canada. So I unfortunately can not pay a very attractive 18 year old woman to have sex with me. I really wish that I was Asexual so that I could be happy with myself being a virgin forever.

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    Sex doesn’t need to define you, neither does being a virgin.

    Sex is part of a healthy life but putting it on a pedestal and letting it impact your image of yourself will only lead to toxicity.

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      The only reason why I’m putting sex on a pedestal is because I can’t stop thinking about it. That’s why I really wish I was Asexual so that wouldn’t think about sex anymore.

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        You literally said you wanna bang beautiful 18 year girls lmao. Girls have pussies. You’re putting the pussy on a pedestal bro.

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          Okay well when you put like that then I guess you’re right but I am not simping for beautiful 18 year old women because I don’t have any interest at all in being a romantic relationship with them. I just want to bang them.

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            Yea, I fully understand that. Lol. Putting the pussy on a pedestal simply means that you’re putting too much self worth into sex. Doesn’t matter if you’re looking for romance or just sex itself.

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    In my experience, sex is like board games. It’s fun while you’re doing it, but the pleasure is finished soon enough. It’s not a life-changing event. If you don’t get to play board-games very often, or never before, or you just don’t enjoy it - that does not define you.

    I know you’re just venting rather than looking for answers, but sex isn’t as important as many people seem to think.

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      The problem is since I am a virgin. I will never know if having sex is enjoyable or not.

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    You can literally find sex workers anywhere you are. I assume you can go online and find some. There’s always the yellow pages as well haha.

    But yeah, maybe work on your views. If you don’t work on the underlying problem, you’re probably not going to feel any better. Could probably seek a therapist via a doctor’s referral since you’re in Canada.

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      Those sex workers that are online could be cops uncover so I don’t want to risk that because I don’t want to go to jail.

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        Yes they’re actually all police trying to entrap you. Did you think about the latter part of my post? Also it’s kinda weird mentioning 18 year olds (I Guess unless you’re 18ish), if not, probably another thing to address with a professional.

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          I am a old man and I personally do not think it’s morally wrong for me pay a 18 year old woman to have sex with me because me and her are both consenting adults. So what me and her are doing is completely harmless.

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            Agreed. But focusing on that specific aspect comes off pretty creepy.

            For the last time, have you considered the latter part of any of my replies? Honestly, it seems like some sort of underlying issue that you need to work through (coming from a random person on the Internet who has no education in psychological issues).

            But it’s something to consider. Being in Canada, you have much more access to it than people in many other countries.