• OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml
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      It’s a bit of both. I can see these hobbies leading to a healthy relationship, but anyone who thinks the answer isn’t “hit the gym” is coping.

      (Btw I’m no gym rat, but this is a fact)

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        anyone who thinks the answer isn’t “hit the gym” is coping.

        I’d put “hit the dermatologist” above it. Plenty of girls go for the skinny or husky builds. But blemishes are a universal turn off

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          The benefits of hitting the gym are much more than just getting swole. It increases self-confidence, helps to improve self-image, etc, which are all way more important to getting laid than any hobby you could have.

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              Not at a biochemical/hormonal level, which you definitely can for at least physical activity.

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                  No. I don’t think that going to a dermatologist causes significant hormonal changes like exercising regularly does. Why would I ever think that salicylic acid and antibiotics would affect my neurotransmitters and hormones significantly? They don’t…

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                    I don’t think that going to a dermatologist causes significant hormonal changes

                    I don’t think you’ve ever been to a dermatologist

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        Hiking - sounds attractive, but the woman may not actually enjoy hiking especially doing multiple day trails

        Woodworking - “wow you made this desk yourself?!” Reality: Spent weeks designing and getting the right materials, spent more weeks in the shop getting everything right, spent months all together away and in a shop so you could present… a desk (the novelty runs out real quick with a partner)

        Same with a lot of them, if you’re really into a hobby and it is presentable… You’ve spent a fuckton of time on it. Something you could do while you were single, 10x harder to pick up or continue doing in a relationship since your time is now divided. It becomes one of those, “Yeah they love doing photography and they’re really good at it!” (cue partner standing there who hasn’t taken a picture in over a year looking sheepish).

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            Oh yeah, equipment is definitely a perk. It’s kinda amazing how cheap shop vacs are too compared to going to a car wash repeatedly. But I think you jostled a caveat to all of these hobbies, being not broke lol. Could really put a strain on a relationship when you would previously sacrifice to get something but now you’re asking a partner to do the same.

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        “Playing and instrument”, for example, is likely not a tender accoustic guitar in the moonlight. It’s repetitive, monotonic, loud noise, that rarely resembles music most of the time, no matter the instrument.

        Same with woodworking, it’s not sculpting a figurine with a knife and a pipe in your mouth. It’s FUCKING LOUD machines, wood dust everywhere (if you’re a hobbyist), every nook of your place becomes wood storage.

        Most of the “attractive” hobbies might sound attractive, when you don’t really think about them and go with your first thought (that’s mostly based on depictions in films/tv shows, etc.)