• glimse@lemmy.world
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    I could tell them I get wasted every Friday and no one would bat an eye…but my mom would have a heart attack if she found out I’ve ever been in the same room with marijuana. I’m in my 30s. Some things are better left as secrets

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    I can’t feel empathy and the only reason why I am sad when you are sad is because I’ve learned that faking it makes you happier.

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      So you do something for no reason for the benefit of someone who is suffering while you are not suffering? How empathetic lmao

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          Trivial distinction. they recognize someone is hurting. who started this whole symp/emp divide? it literally never comes up in counseling school

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            Who started this? Highschool level psych 101 classes. Its an easy distinction to teach kids about psychopathy/sociopathy but reality can be a little more nuanced. I also imagine that counseling is about treating emotionally damaged people with the idea they can improve mentally not instantly judging them ‘oh well youre an unfeeling psychopath monster and always will be because you didn’t have empathy for this person in this situation’

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    I tried to kill myself. Twice. I would either have to deal with my old man’s shit or break my mom’s heart, neither of which I could tolerate.

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      I’m glad you’re still here, yes, you will break your parents heart.

      I’ve known too many young men that took their own life, and the aftermath is life changing for the entire family and friends, but mainly the family.

      I hope you’re doing well, and whoever you are, you’re in my thoughts

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      I’m sorry you were in that position, and I hope you’re doing much better now?

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    One specific family member, hope that’s okay. But I could never tell my mom about when I was molested on a work trip with her ex-partners company. One of the families took in troubled boys and I woke up in the cabin with him in my bed. Hands in my clothes and drunk as hell. I beat him so bad. One of the other actual children of employees woke up and helped pull me off him and got him out of there. We never talked about it. I don’t know what he(the helper) knew at the time. What I do know is if I ever tell my mother this she will drive and she will one hundred percent kill the people who brought that monster into my life. And I love her too much to put her through that (both having to hear it, and the murder, and the subsequent jail time).

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        It was, but I am actually doing really well now, generally. Stable and supportive partner. Love and joy on the daily!

        Have some health issues but I feel like who doesn’t these days? It does make having friends a struggle but I have a lot of… acquaintances and small relationships can be fulfilling, in their own way.

        Generally great relationships with my family, minus several humans who have been downgraded to biological associates.

        On the whole pretty excellent and like to think I’m doing as well for those around me as I can despite my limitations.

        Sorry, unsuspecting victims, for the wall of text, the word vomit needed out, I suppose.

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    I don’t want to be around you.

    I wouldn’t tell my loved one that because I DO want to be around her.

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    I’ll likely retire before my parents, aunts and uncles. I won’t tell them, I"ll just stop working and if they ask, I will say I’m an investment manager. Boomers and Gen X were shit with their finances, I guess.