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My reaction would be “holy shit you’re actually still alive.”

Convenient since my mum passed away a few days ago actually.

I know they won’t, because my parents are devout Muslims.

My actual parents, or hypothetical parents?

My real ones, it would be fine. They’ve always backed me being active with gay rights issues going back to the eighties. They had no issues with my openly gay friends. They even let two of those friends live with us for a while. So, if it turned out they were gay the entire time, it might be a bit surprising that it took so long to come out to me, when I’m the extended family’s established “safe out” person; I’m the one the people in the family come to for that because I’ve been very open about support.

Hypothetically, if it weren’t my actual parents, it would really depend on the circumstances how I would show support. Someone coming out to you is a big deal. They’ll have individual needs and hopes from the decision, so navigating that without a history to pull from for predicting those needs and hopes can be thorny.

Like, some folks want the support to be super casual, like “Yeah? Cool, what’s for dinner?”. Others might need hugs and reassurance, or calm verbal recognition, or even celebration. It could be anything; there’s some folks that want/need it to be a little opposed or otherwise rocky because they can’t believe, in their hearts, that it’s possible for it to go smoothly. Without a little “drama”, they stay stressed. Mind you, I’m not really able to do real drama, though I can fake being upset it didn’t happen sooner as long as I can make it lighthearted and a little jokey.

Seriously, anyone reading this far, be the person that people come out to early on in their process of coming out. It’s such a beautiful thing to be part of.

I can’t know how I would react unless that actually happens.

This is really important for people to understand.

I would feel very sorry for both of them.

My parents are in their 80s. They’ve been married 50+ years. I know that they came very close to divorce at one point, and ultimately only stayed together because their religion says that you shouldn’t divorce (except in cases of physical abuse and infidelity). To discover that they had stayed married, and both of them miserable, for 50+ years because of a bullshit religion would be heartbreaking.

I’d probably have to help my mom accept herself, but she’s actually open minded when engaged in sincere conversation. I’d probably have to help her reconcile her faith with her sexuality, which won’t be too hard. She’s actually one of “the good ones,” when it comes to being very Christian but also the parent of a queer child. (Me)

My step-dad would be interesting. If he came out it would be a genuine shock given he is a bigot. While it might feel really good to point and laugh at him, and not care what happens after he comes out to his very conservative family, thinking on it I’d rather offer my support to him and maybe gain an ally. I could at the very least be out to him. I’m not currently because I don’t know how he’d take it and I live in his house.

My dad’s dead. If he was alive I wouldn’t be a part of his life. If someone told me he came out, I would say, “Neat!” Then move on with my day.

My mother loathes the fact that my brother is gay, not even for religion reasons but because she’s psychotic, so for her to come out would be highly satisfying because then maybe I could make her feel bad about it the way she makes him feel, cunt that she is.

Honestly, I’d chuckle to myself and then let them know that doesn’t absolve them of the decades of hell they put hundreds of kids through by being very vocal against it in community leadership. They have some cleanup to do. I’ll help with the cleanup, but you got some cleanup to do.

Well, my step-mom already came out to me as bi as soon as I came out to her, so that would be a bit anticlimactic, but if she decided to come out in a more public way I’d be happy for her.

My other parents are all dead, so that would be very weird.

Oh look, that dumb shit pile of ash is still a dumb shit pile of ash, but now it’s even more hypocritical and has dicks in it.

I did not have great parents…

My dad surprised, my mom I sorta see it.

“Mom’s a lesbian and alive? 😱”

Depressed that they’d hidden it for so long.

I won’t react