I used to see him all over the place and now nothing. I checked his post history and it’s been 24 days since he last posted anything.

I don’t know the guy or have any personal stake, but seeing someone everywhere just suddenly disappear is odd.

  • Skua@kbin.earth
    72·
    4 months ago

    I will absolutely not share specifics of this since it would be doxxing him, but I found one of his other social media accounts and it had a post from a week ago that seemed ordinary enough. Whatever got him to stop posting here, it wasn’t something so drastic as to prevent him from engaging with his interests

    (Also Squid, if you see this, I am happy to explain how I found you over DMs if it concerns you)

    • FaceDeer@fedia.io
      432·
      4 months ago

      Glad to hear that he’s apparently doing okay.

      But I must say, I think it’s probably for the best that he dialed down his Fediverse engagement. Both for his own sake (nobody should spend that much time on social media) and for the Fediverse as a whole - he seemed to be everywhere that I went and it made the place feel small and monocultural.

      I’ve always liked the way on Reddit I barely ever recognized anyone’s name. I prefer engaging with the conversation, not with the people.

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
        0·
        4 months ago

        Being real, part of what’s been great about lemmy is connection with people, instead of empty bullshit jokes and snark and the usual smugness that comes from not knowing the people.

        There’s a been dozens of times I’ve seen people here see someone acting unusual, and reaching out to see what’s going on, offering sympathy and ending with mutual respect instead of slap fights.

        Fuck the way reddit worked. It didn’t work, but everyone thought it was the only way to have threaded forums, that you had to accept everyone being anonymous dicks as the price of discourse and content.

        But it isn’t, it really isn’t the only way. And lemmy, for all its faults, still has that sense of actual community where you can go to a new C/ and run across lemmy friends. Some of them may even turn into friends in other ways.

        The old squid was indeed everywhere, and he made plenty of mistakes along the way, but damned if he didn’t do his part to make lemmy feel like a place for people first, even when the way he went about that was one of his mistakes.

        I don’t want to float through the kind of cesspits reddit could have, feeding back into toxicity via anonymity and disconnection.

        • FaceDeer@fedia.io
          1·
          4 months ago

          Well, that’s fine if you prefer it that way. I prefer relative anonymity and subject-focused discussion myself. It’s a preference, not an objective “I’m right and you’re wrong” sort of thing.

          • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
            0·
            4 months ago

            Word. No right or wrong :)

            Just don’t know that you’ll find lemmy in general that subject focused. There’s some communities that stay pretty tight, but it tends more towards mini chats rather than more structured comment chains.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      12·
      4 months ago

      I’m glad he’s off if that’s truly him then. Some of the other posts here were worrying. Best of luck to him and his family.

  • tiredofsametab@fedia.io
    12·
    4 months ago

    There was a post in powertrippingbastards the other day that referenced him, though I don’t recall which. Some person mentioned an argument with them on discord/matrix and they chose to step away.

  • HubertManne@piefed.socialEnglish
    10·
    4 months ago

    I thought at first it was 24 hours and I was like woa man. Sometimes folks have to take a break. But 24 days is long.

  • dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de
    4·
    4 months ago

    That’s a good point I used to see him all the time and chatted with him some.

    Last I spoke, in public comments in here, he had completed his move to the UK (where I live too) so perhaps he’s just been busy with all the changes.

    Edit: Good on you for asking.

  • rodneylives@lemmy.world
    1·
    4 months ago

    I know FlyingSquid from another community, and sent them a private message just a few days ago saying hello. (I didn’t know they had been missing at the time.) FS is awesome, and I really hope they’re okay.