If hot tub handjobs really are a thing I’ve wasted my life
They are, so next time take off your floaties.
You want to go the pool route. In the hot tub there’s little differentiation temperature wise.
Look man
Y’all know far too much for this. I’m 34, my ex cheated on me 5 years (or 6 idk, I lost track) and have gotten laid once in that time.
It doesn’t help i have ADHD with some weird mental thing preventing me from trying to hook up with anyone for any reason
Wait, no, I think my ex and I did try in a pool once but when they say “pool closed” we assumed that meant cause no staff was around
some weird mental thing preventing me from trying to hook up with anyone
Do the test
Yeah. I’ve been screened. That one gives me between 20-24 depending on a couple of the middle of the road answers. There’s another one that’s much longer that highlights the ADHD and general anxiety traits, but the two categories ASD rates high on are low scores.
I mean I get it. I’m an engineer, I overanalyze the shit out of everything, I’m anxious socially, I get bored as shit easily, I’m terrified of effort yielding no results. It’s paradoxical in my head: I am lonely, crave social interaction, but I’m so terrified of it I avoid opportunities as much as possible.
Best thing to do is (i know it’s cliche) but to not worry about it.
Just focus on yourself and the hobbies you find fun. Then start to look for others (not romantically) that also partake in those hobbies. Maybe try and find local in person meet ups or spaces that accommodate for it.
You just be you and eventually you’ll attract someone without effort. No one is completely unique and you will find a common ground with someone that will eventually flourish. And because it’s around the things you already love, it’ll be less effort.
I know ADHD can throw a spanner in the works too (I have it as well). But it will come to you either through practice or by o professional help (like I did) depending on the severity.
I read the caption before I took a good look at the picture and I assumed that “floaties” meant something very different.
Oh, I’ve got this far down the comments before realising we were maybe talking about arm based flotation devices and not turds.
Well at least someone here is getting floaties. I’m sitting here either dry or wet as a bone.
better to bone wet than dry
I would also like to keep my bones wet for as long as possible too
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Whatever floats your uhh… arms?
Safety first though!
Honey, you have to put some elbow grease into it.
It prevents: “This isnt a beach, this is a bathtub” kinds of situations.
“from German”. I’m not being elitist, I am not German. But lent words have origins.
Sounds like a challenge tbh
