• blindbunny@lemmy.ml
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    1 month ago

    🙄 this is why I only date bisexual women. If I said this to any women I’m in a relationship with she would probably say something like, “fuck you” then peg me while annoying asking if I got the pun.

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    One of my high school teachers was called miss bussy and I’m not joking about this ethier, that was her actual name

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    Maybe it’s my man brain that’s stupid, but can someone explain to me why “boy pussy” is so offensive that you give him the silent treatment?

    Like, it makes zero sense. Wtf is a “boy pussy” anyways?

    Am I too straight to understand this?

    I don’t want to offend, I genuinely do not understand. Help me out here.

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          Not sure, you should gather more data. Next time you are with someone keep mentioning a different person. Share your results.

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            My results would be invalid because I don’t participate in open relationships.

            I don’t have anything against such an arrangement, but I know myself, and knowing that my partner may be out, sleeping with another person would make me a very jealous person; normally, in a closed relationship, unless there is some kind of evidence of infidelity, I’m not jealous at all. I don’t look for such evidence, and I do everything in my power to trust what my partner tells me as truth. My most significant rule in a relationship is that I will not lie to them about anything that matters, nor will I tolerate being lied to about the same. I’m up front about this arrangement with anyone I get involved with.

            I have been in relationships where I’ve been lied to, and I have been in situations where there has been infidelity in the relationship (or at least, evidence it did or will happen). I did not like the person I became. So I tend to avoid situations where I could become that person.

            I have not, nor would I allow myself to be in an open relationship. As such, I do not possess the mental fortitude to deal with my partner having intimate relationships with others. It’s a character flaw that I don’t seem to be able to get over, so I avoid it. Since I am not in an open relationship, it would not be a valid comparison, since there’s factors in the OP that I cannot satisfy, and the results would not reflect a comparible situation.

            All I can say is that I would imagine that in an open relationship, such things would be reacted to differently than in a closed relationship. Since I do not have the requisite experience necessary to know those differences, instead, I asked.

            Instead of a genuine response I get sarcastic and snide replies about “how would you feel?”, when I have no basis for comparison.

            Thanks though.

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        Saying “that boy pussy” might not be about another person, so I’m also not sure this should actually be offensive. He might just be thinking about anal sex while he is in a vagina.

        I’m making a big assumption though:

        • women can have a boy pussy since they also have an anus
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      I wouldn’t be offended by this, but other phrases about my body might offend me. As an example, the term “man boob” really disgusts me and makes me feel ashamed of my body. My wife knows this. If she said that during an intimate moment it could very well make me upset. It’s hard to know how I’d react in the moment. It could be that he accidentally said “boy pussy” then didn’t apologize or acted like it wasn’t anything wrong. It could be that OOP was already very self conscious about their vagina and having it compared to an asshole (what “boy pussy” usually refers to in cis males) was upsetting.

      Emotions are weird and often don’t make logical sense. It’s less important exactly why something was upsetting and more important to acknowledge that it was upsetting and apologize.

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    I do have to come to homeboys defense. She heard bussy and though he was picturing a twink. While that’s fine and dandy if that’s what he’s into, maybe he was actually thinking about bears. Sounds like she’s the issue cause she thinks we can only be twinks. My beard says otherwise.

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    and reddit will ban you if you dont take this seriously and clown on this post.