Edit: while I’m at it, does anyone know what I should do when I’m waiting for a coincidence/adventure to happen, but it never comes? I can’t really go outside and arrange for it to happen because I don’t know what I’m looking for.
I don’t know who originally said it, but “Everything in moderation, including moderation.” That is, it’s okay to go overboard on something as long as that’s an exception, not a norm. Want to eat a whole carton of ice cream? It’s not going to kill you if you do it, as long as you don’t do it every weekend. Enjoy stuff, don’t be excessive generally, but the rare occasion is just fine.
Note: there are, of course, exceptions. You probably don’t want to try even a little black tar heroin unless you’re okay with the risk of becoming an addict.
I’ve heard that quote attributed to Charles Bukowski. No idea if true though
“Never half-ass two things. Whole-ass one thing.”
-Ron Swanson
This one really applies to me right now. It’s just so hard to bring yourself to do the whole-hearted thing when the whole-hearted thing comes at a price
“Necessary? Is it necessary that I drink my own urine? No! I do it because it’s sterile and I enjoy the taste!”
Meaning: It doesn’t matter if it’s necessary, you should still do things because you enjoy doing it.
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“No good deed goes unpunished.”
Building self esteem requires esteemable acts.
sometimes people will really fuckin hurt you and you won’t ever get an apology
Sometimes you’ll never know why, sometimes you will, but you still won’t get why.
Life’s a bitch and then you die, that’s why we get high 'Cause you never know when you’re gonna go
Self explanatory
The true mind can weather all the lies and illusions without being lost. The true heart can touch the poison of hatred without being harmed.
-Badass Lion Turtle
“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.”
ETA, same thing a different way: “That’s the thing. I don’t think I believe in ‘deep down’. I kind of think all you are is just the things that you do.”
I like this. What are each of the quotes from?
The first one is from Kurt Vonnegut’s Mother Night, which is the story of the American Nazi propagandist, Howard Campbell, who briefly appears in the more well-known book, Slaughterhouse Five. The second is from the show BoJack Horseman, specifically episode 12 of the first season.
I feel like your personality is largely the sum of what you communicate to others.
Oof, this feels unintentionally personal. The stories those quotes come from are about doing bad things while thinking of yourself as actually a good person “deep down.” For me, though, it was realizing that people can like you for who you are only if you communicate to them who you are.
Be angry at the sun for setting If these things anger you.
-Robinson Jeffers
This is a good one. People around me get angry about the stupidest things.
“Tell one lie, and you end up saying 1000 more lies to protect that lie” - My math teacher
Always have an exit plan.
Not sure it’s really a quote, so maybe it doesn’t count … but it’s such common wisdom that it probably should count.
I never really appreciated it until I went through something where the wisdom of it would have made the difference. The slightly more precise version, IMO, is that whenever you’re in a position where something beyond your control can have a substantial influence on the outcome, you need an exit plan before you commit to that position, where that plan includes the definition of the conditions which trigger both the preparation of the execution of the plan and the time to actually exit.
The whole idea is to be prepared to not get fucked by other people or bad luck. And half of the benefit of having the plan is in the perspective it gives you. Instead of having Stockholm syndrome or suffering from the sunk cost fallacy, you naturally assess your situation as the set of trade offs that it is and more naturally perceive the toxic people that are essentially stuck in their worlds and either hold others back or propagate the culture that holds others back.
Make sure you have the plan, including the trigger conditions, formulated ahead of time, and regularly think back on the plan as you’re going along, adjusting or reassessing as necessary.
Can confirm. I was an employee at a pizza place - and thus allowed to use the staff exit - for just one night.
Exit was used.
This is game-changingly good advice. I just wish it was easier to come up with exit plans. I have often found myself stuck in situations where there was no clear or realizable exit plan opportunity, which meant I wasted a lot of time being stuck in the Stockholm syndrome situation, and resenting it.
Yea, sometimes you don’t have many options and that’s just kinda life. But if you don’t have to commit to a situation, project, job etc … I think it will always help to at least try to come up with an exit plan, because even if there isn’t a good one, it helps you frame everything in terms of trade offs and understand that most things, at some point, just aren’t worth it because there are always other options (at least that’s how I see things now, as someone who hasn’t valued being flexible and agile in life nearly enough).
Part of the reason why various philosophies dictate you should do A before B is to avoid the situation where you have a B without an A.
“Do A before you B” is a common way of saying “A is a dependency of B”.
It’s a way of saying “Don’t B unless you know you can A”, but it de-abstracts the knowing down to proving, by trying and either succeeding or failing.
Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.
Practice the basics, get it right. Don’t try to go faster for the sake of going faster, you’ll hit your limit and get sloppy and pickup bad habits. Test your limits to learn them, but don’t hit them every time. Get comfortable within them and the goal posts will move.
This is good
„Bees don’t waste their time explaining flies that honey tastes better than shit.“
Haha this is a good one. I can see where it applies
“It’s amazing how far some people will come to have a bad time.”
After seeing an argument between a couple at a large EDM show (Sasha and Digweed) in the chillout lounge.
“Just imagine what it’s like inside his head.”
After getting verbally assaulted by an angry guy.
Sasha and Digweed, that must have been a hell of a show
Haha that is a funny one
