I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices.
So I’m going to try and compliment people who:
Have really well done and unique tattoos
Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)
Have super sharp outfits
Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)
what are other good compliments we should give each other?
EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I’ll try to throw out a “looks like you’re cooking up some good stuff”
Anything. Literally anything. The only time I get noticed is when someone needs something from me. I define my existence by how useful I am to others because that’s the only time I’ve ever felt wanted. I hate it, but it’s better than being completely ignored (which has happened many times in my life).
I see the word commission in a lot of your art posts. Do you draw? It’s good stuff.
No, see the text of the post. I’m linking to other people’s stuff.
Same. I might as well be invisible until someone needs help with something. I get compliments at work sometimes but it’s all related to my being competent enough to do something they need.
I’m in this comment and I don’t like it.
I got a couple escorts who would like to talk to you
Too broke for that, sorry.
Is…is this like an insult?
No…unless you think it’s shameful to use their services…
There’s a story that pops up time and again on forums about men buying time with escorts but not having sex with them. They have dinner or something, then she just listens to him. Idk if it’s true or not, I’ve never heard of it irl. It’s like therapy with a hot woman.
It was a plot point in series 3 of Auf Wiedersehen, Pet, for what it’s worth
Bro. Same.
This is the best response. So apropos to too many of us!
Nice cock bro
said at the next piss stall over when all others are free
Try raising a male chicken and going to France
My personal favorite probably is compliments on when I have built/fixed something. It’s the skill I’m the most proud of.
This! Using my knowledge and practice to practical effect and being thanked for it is genuinely the best feeling! Even if it’s transactional, it’s still nice to feel like a job well done after all the years of effort and craft.
Genuine compliments on personality are always cool. Like, “you’re good at making people feel comfortable around you” or whatever. People often wonder what role they play in social situations, being told they’re doing good is nice. At least I appreciate it whenever it happens.
I’m always ordering weird shirts off the internet. From like video games, Youtube channels, FOSS and general geeky fun stuff. About once or twice a year some total stranger will say “cool shirt!” out of nowhere. That always makes me smile the rest of the day 😊
Shirts that go hard
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I was in Italy on vacation and a girl in a hotel reception said me and my girlfriend have really beautiful blue eyes. They are not used to blue eyes in Italy so much, but it felt very nice to get a compliment as a guy. I think I’ve rarely or never had compliments from strangers like that.
That woman probably felt safer to compliment you as well as your girlfriend because you were together. Sadly, guys in general get fewer compliments from girls than pop into the girls’ heads because they’re afraid of how the guy would react.
Which is why it’s nice for OP to call on guys to compliment each other, and notice when they’ve put in effort.
I’m going to add, “Great hair!” And, “Those glasses really suit you!”
As a father, I’d like to hear how well I combine being an emotionally supportive dad while maintaining a demanding job and taking care of cooking, repairs and other stuff at home.
Good one. My kids are teens, so I’m always happy to hear anything about how well they grew up
Your kids are really nice human beings. You did well raising them!
Thank you. I’m so proud of them
I love your small pp and body odor
“I’m so jealous of your bottomless cash flow”
“Nice dick”
Anything other than the typical “nice shirt” or “wow you’re tall” I get, really.
“Thanks. I stretch every day” lmao
“You’re tall” is the “nice tits” of male compliments
Hey, nice tits!
I can’t tell if that’s worse for guys or gals
The quality of tits can change based on effort. A woman can improve her tits by exercising.
Height just is what it is.
Praise for any genuine public service whether that’s being an EMT or just picking up a piece of trash. The world would probably be better off if we focused more on recognizing actions and less on superficial things like what clothes you can afford or physical appearance.
ooh. I would not get any compliments based on OP original criteria but could get some with yours. Honestly though compliments make me uncomfortable.
I love how bashful you are
Im really not. Well usually. I can be caught off guard and actually my wife is good at that. It honestly makes me more rigid and ackward. I feel bashful is like a looser state of mind and body.
It’s enough to compliment them on whatever is new. New shoes, new haircut, new shirt, new tattoo, etc.
None, i genuinely cannot handle beeing complimented
Complimenting another guy’s physique is a bit weird I think unless you’re trying to date them or are someone who works on their body as well.
As an older guy who recently got into shape (and am definitely not an introvert) it always comes across a bit weird to me when someone who is out of shape mentions it.
As a hetero male, of course I’m happy when any women mentions it, but it actually feels better when someone who is in better shape mentions it (probably because I’m married and a women’s comment, while nice, isn’t actionable but someone who is in better shape knows the work it took to get here).
That is a tough situation.
How about “Jesus, put the weights down occasionally and leave some pussy for the rest of us!”? It acknowledges your effort, but is clearly they are not trying to hit on you.
Jesus does not approve of this comment
At this point I’ll take what I can get. I put a lot of effort in my physique and pretty much only ever hear about from other dudes. I’ve had one woman mention it to me in 8 years. I don’t work out just to get complements but I’m happy with my results and it’d be nice to know I’m not delusional. I suspect part of the problem is that I’m very short for a dude, I hear about that all the time.
