Truly a pretty terrible place for any kind of social activity.
People here are super self righteous and unwavering in their beliefs, quick to insult others and be generally bitchy, pedantic and quick to dogpile. Worst of all while still usually slightly wrong about a thing, but unwilling to hear it.
It’s basically the worst parts of reddit users where we have boiled it down to the most affluent or socially insecure.
Even if it’s as simple as a question people jump to defend their position with insults rather than answer it cause they get worried the person might be confused and it’s best to just make sure it’s a closed community as quick as possible.
This isn’t an open community it’s a private gated one where everyone jumped the fence and is scared that the wrong person might have come in with them.
Condescending is not welcoming.
Upvoting cause they are your in group isn’t community.
Berating outcasts cause you at least don’t feel like them is still bullying.
Hey man they are just morons and downvotes. Being offended is simply the cost of free speach. U can choose not to give a fuck or u can choose to take it personally its up to u.
Hexbear, grad, and ml are fucked so u can disregard anything they say or do. If people arnt engaging in good faith call em out on it or just call em a cunt up to u.
I call them a cunt and I get yelled at for being unprofessional in a social media platform and I get banned for them being an an instigator that purposefully states incorrect and inflammatory things.
It has happened. I’ve been called a lot of things and responding to it saying it’s bait from an asshole got me banned for like 7 days months ago on a lemmy.world news thread. The person got upvotes and praise for sticking up for themselves.
This platform likes the bad faith and calling them out is an attack on the in groups that like it. This is a large part here and why I think it’s bad at being a welcoming community.
I want it to move in a better direction not just pretend that it’s fine and ignore it. But I’m coming around to not caring. Not thinking about things seems to be standard, and safer for people’s lives.
This is only a problem for you because you arnt going along with the narrative.
Stop thinking for yourself do as your told or you will be punished for your thought crimes.
In all seriousness tho i think the more people of differing political views the more the hate will be equallity divided making the pile on not as bad.
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I can see why you hate everyone here. 🫠
What? If you got stuff say it.
Well that’s piqued my interest so I glanced over your comments. I have to point out that yes, people respond badly to you sometimes, reminding me of reddit.
You should know that you seem unaware that your comments occasionally have a pugnacious or even bellicose tone, not necessarily intentionally mind you, but noticeable. Sometimes dismissive or contemptuous attitudes leak out and hostile replies state they are responding to that. It’s not simple bullying, it’s buttons being pushed.
Thank you! I actually appreciate the honesty. That’s something I can work with.
Maybe, hopefully.
I don’t think it is far different from the snark I see but I don’t think I should emulate that I guess if I hate it when done to me. I just don’t like having to take the high road just cause I apparently invite it.
Get a instance that doesn’t federate with .ml instances or hexbear, block the Lemmy.world political communities and you can enjoy Lemmy mostly without assholes.
+1 for unpopular. I think planet earth is worse platform.
Yeah I’m starting to think it’s just nature of people to be shitty.
Any subject at all and if someone thinks themselves better than you (and they will) then it’s practically pointless. They just like the high of feeling right more than anything else.
Edit: also near 50/50 split so I guess this was an unpopular opinion
I agree. Lemmy is the most unwelcoming social media platform I’ve ever been to. It’s why I no longer recommend it to anyone. People be like, “just leave Twitter,” but then don’t have the tiniest bit of tolerance for views that even slightly differ from their own. This doesn’t just apply to the comments either - my highly curated feed, with over 500 of the most toxic users blocked, still mostly consists of people complaining. Look at me; I’m complaining too.
Thats a lot of blocking lol and our monthly user counts is like 50k
Like most people say if you want more pleasant experience, it’d be better to avoid politics.
Dank memes is also tangled with politics and crudeness anymore and outlived their days.
Also you don’t need to feel obligated to respond to rude or unpleasant people, just block em’ and go about your own interest.
Lastly treat others how you would like to be treated. If you just go around trying to counterpoint argue and call everyone terrible then you might suffer some backlash.
Violent agreement
had an account on another server banned for saying this.
Everyone here is very disagreeable. .
.world is by far the worst for ignorant shitheads.
I’m not excluding myself , but I put opinions from a different perspective and just get slaughtered.
This is my 4 account
Everyone feels apparently a deep seated need to be right and defend their idea of the world as if we might steal away their fantasy and make them miserable for it.
If they have an opinion on it than they are already right and anyone coming in to talk to them about it is a dangerous outsider.
Everyone is xenophobic and everyone is the other. Maybe it’s not just here but man is it pretty bad here and on .world.
This is my 4 account
If it’s on 4 different instances, that’s a bit concerning tbh
Wait a second aren’t you “blaze” on like every instance?
I have probably an account on all of the top 20 instances. The main 4 I use at the moments are in my bio. The rest I use when I want to start a new community and federate it to the top instances
Edit: got your question due to context: I never got banned, which seems to be the case for the commenter above.
Ah good clarification
blocking the .ml instances helps, a lot. I made the recent mistake (twice!) commenting on Lemmy.ml. over there, anything NOT praising Russia, NK, or China is hated. they’re pretty smooth-brained and not worth arguing with. same with lemmygrad, same with hexbear. I’m fairly new to federation, and that was a big learning curve for me. a lot of the Europe or US based instances are way more open to hearing opinions and conversation, so I’d start there.
I’m not honestly fighting with .ml people. The people the most rude to me are .world.
I think they are just used as easy scapegoats cause they tend to be loud and passionate.
I can be in a memes thread and still have people argue in bad faith and call me a troll for asking a question about Linux. That’s not .ml or hexbear.
The people the most rude to me are .world.
It’s also a third of the whole userbase, so definitely a higher number of every type of users, including toxic ones.
Oh dang… Well that somewhat explains the prevalence of their users.
Kinda a problem though that they then still blame other communities when they are Lemmy to a large degree.If you want an idea of the split, filter this table by MAU (monthly active users): https://fedidb.org/software/lemmy/
I see your instance is federated with both Hexbear and Lemmygrad. Going to gesture vaguely at that being the root of your problem (or at least > 90% of it).
Blocking instances helps, but you’ll still see users from there in the comments and in other communities (not on the blocked instance). Some UIs will hide users from blocked instances. I know Tesseract does (I wrote it to do that), but others might as well.
My experience here has been pretty great after getting my blocklist and feed curated.
Yeah I am also federated with lemmy.world and blocking that would silence the feed a whole lots more while being just as helpful to my psyche.
The commies are at least consistent and up to date on things. Which is insane since they insist on a economic system from 200 years ago.I think the problem I have is that those outside of grad and hexbear also think their shit doesn’t stink but I literally have seen people openly mocking a user for nothing because he made a comment elsewhere that means they keep going after him to punish him for his opinion on anything. It’s cruel and fucking inhuman. It lacks all empathy and it’s not hexbear that was doing it.
I also don’t want to block people just for existing with other opinions. I couldnt do it in real life. I can choose to not interact.
Blocking feels like a bandaid for having a terrible community where everyone wants to be alone and right.Am a mod of a few smaller communities but I think I speak for a lot of us. We aren’t in every thread, but if you see rule breaking, report it. That’s what we’re there for. I know that sort of behavior is against the rules in my subs.
Yeah I think I’ve realized I’m really only seeing the basic big theads on lemmy.world and the moderation there is kill or be killed and whatever the mods giggle at is allowed. Which means they let dogpiling happen if it seems deserved.
I’m apparently in a rather small instance.
I think the problem I have is that those outside of grad and hexbear also think their shit doesn’t stink but I literally have seen people openly mocking a user for nothing because he made a comment elsewhere that means they keep going after him to punish him for his opinion on anything. It’s cruel and fucking inhuman. It lacks all empathy and it’s not hexbear that was doing it.
Feel free to report this. This should not be tolerated.
Hahahahahahaha ohhhh… Yeah like that does anything. I’ve seen mods joke about it just being the person they all gang up on as if it was the thing to do.
I’ve had some good interactions with mods, but that… Was 1 person actually. Same mod basically.The mods are a lot of the same people and someone from “outside” telling them they are horrified just brands you as another target for them to ignore as you get silenced out. The big communities are absolutely the worst offenders.
If they are mods, then you can shame them on !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com
You can have a look, nobody hesitates to call out crappy mod behaviour
Hahaha oh my God that’s kinda fun. Sorta a go scream on a mountain top style solution but a fun one at least.
I filed a few of these reports myself, it’s nice.
And you can use them to send to people posting to a community held by a powertripper. They help making a change.
Sorry to hear.
I see you from time to time on !movies@lemm.ee, hopefully you don’t hate people there, we try to keep it nice.
Feel free to join !casualconversation@lemm.ee if you want a more laid-back experience.
Nah I love the movies community. I was able to talk about the weirdest thing I’ve seen all year Megalopolis over there. Literally just wrote a comment about it.
Rough day elsewhere on the platform. Rough month really.
But thank you maybe I will check it out!
After I finally get to watch it I’ll be over there with my thoughts. I can’t wait to see it.
The middle is a rough spot but make it through and I think Coppola tries to reward you in the best ways.
Thank you for that comment, happy that you like the community
Sure, see you around!
