Quitting jobs
Everyone has a job they don’t like and whenever someone complains about the job that they do, there’s always are going to be handfuls of people saying “QUIT UR JOB!” not really caring about whether it’ll benefit the complainer or not.
Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets. No savings. No jobs lined up. Nothing planned. You are putting yourself back to a place of uncertainty and it’s not pleasant when that countdown starts. That countdown is tied to how much you have left to cover your expenses fully until you get another job and how long those expenses will pile up.
Because all it takes is one or two missed paychecks to upset your financial stability and the system you’ve made in how you pay for things.
For some people, unfortunately, quitting jobs is not as simple of an option. People are just jammed into where they are because their job market is poor or it’s highly competitive even when they went to college for that job.
You have one soul mate out there. One true love. One person, so you better compromise to make sure it works. Especially when the alleged “one” is telling you to comply. That way lies abuse.
“God will bring the right person into your life”
I know someone who believes this so strongly that they don’t even really go out or date or anything. They legit believe that somehow their soulmate, chosen by God, will show up at their doorstep while they sit at home every night watching TV? I don’t understand.
I guess maybe if it’s the pizza delivery guy or something…
"I’ve sent Bill, who’s a really great guy btw, back to Home Depot three times to buy a part that he already has two of at home but your dumb ass just sits on the couch every night instead of thinking ‘gee, I should probably repaint my hideous living room.’ But you know what? It’s fine. Bill deserves someone who will actually take some initiative instead of sitting there binging Grey’s Anatomy every night like ‘GoD wIlL bRiNg ThE rIgHt PeRsOn InTo My LiFe’. --God (Probably)
I guess maybe if it’s the pizza delivery guy or something…
I recall having seen documentary films about that phenomenon.
I can’t imagine any relationship working without some degree of compromise. But as to the other part of your comment, I’ve found The One several times in my life. They were right at the time, there was a deep connection, and later, things changed. But it was real and I don’t regret a minute of any of those times.
Getting married, thinking it’ll improve your situation. Nope it’ll just solidify what’s there.
Compare yourself to the people you see in the movies.
You never see Lara Croft or John Wick get the hiccups. If you do it’s because you’re a jerk and everyone will laugh at you.
Anything that boils down to “stop thinking”. For example “have faith in the future”, “follow your guts”, “YOLO”.
Being stuck because of worrying and overthinking is not a good place. Calls to action are the only way to improve the situation.
Acting is essential. However, acting is not mutually exclusive with thinking; in fact if someone acts without thinking they’re likely only causing themself and the others harm.
And this sort of advice is rarely about “think then act”, it’s always “don’t think, only act”.
Don’t overthink is the gist. Most decisions aren’t permanent and can be reversed.
For many, any thinking is overthinking; because they believe that acting and thinking are mutually exclusive. And this happens to be the sort of people who typically says stuff like I listed.
And they keep doing dumb shit over and over and over and over. Harming the ones around them - not due to malice, but due to mental laziness.
Most decisions might not be permanent, but you won’t know which ones without thinking.
Valid argument.
It’s also about opportunities. Some can pass if you don’t react quickly enough.
Impulsivity can lead to all kinds of bad outcomes, for sure.
Some of them are good advise, but like any advise take it with a grain of salt and get to the core of the advise and that is what often goes missing.
Yolo is a good thing/example if we are talking about life experiences and just experiencing them. But that doesnt mean you should jump of a bridge without any safety cords or doing coke everything for the kicks haha.
It essientially means that if you can, do something new (safely) so you enjoy life instead of only living it.Same holds for the other examples you gave.
On Reddit, the answer is always “Break up.”
Break up!
Grab a brush and put a little make up!
Believe in Karma. Life is not fair. It never will be.
Karma in the west is grossly misunderstood anyway. pisses me off
What’s wrong about it?
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Quitting a job cold is one of the dumbest things you can do when you do not have any safety nets.
I quit work at 35 and now 58. My only regret in life is not quitting earlier. I get mo pensions or welfare or inheritance, I’m just mindful of spending and ever since I was 19 I invested small amounts of surplus income in stocks and shares that ballooned over the decades to large amounts.
Frugality includes all the other virtues.” – Cicero
With that age you experienced most of the stock explosions and multiple splits (e.g. Amazon, Apple, Broadcom, Nvidia etc.).
No way in hell I could live from my 10k of stocks on dividends and I am aggressively investing as I still am allowed to live at home (graciously btw) to build up some savings.
Obligatory: “YOLO”, it is true we only live once – so make it count.
“Big boys/girls don’t cry”
This is some archaic-level advice similar to “pull up your bootstraps” that most people may have these already ingrained as part of growing up. It is fine to cry and show others [you trust] your feelings, no matter how old you are. More importantly, the better advice is to “take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being” and “be kind to yourself”.
If you receive letters demanding payments… just don’t open them, they will sort themselves out.
Eat less, move more
Not bad advice at all.
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