• DerisionConsulting@lemmy.ca
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    2 months ago

    You need to be specific about which type of elves this is.

    If we’re talking LotR, elves are immortal.
    If we’re talking 40k, Eldrad is 10,000+ years old.
    If we’re talking WoW, it’s a couple thousand years.
    If we’re talking D&D, elves live like 750 years.
    If we’re talking Shadowrun, Elves lit’s all over the place.

  • Iamsqueegee@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    Neither. There is an age difference, sure, but an 80 year old woman is a well-lived human adult who can make her own choices. If it were an 80 year old female elf, then possible. Not sure what the age of consent is in elvish customs, or the age of emotional maturity. As for robbing the grave, no, she’s not dead. Robbing the cradle implies young life inside the cradle and there is nothing living in a grave. Now, if the elf provided the woman with prolonged life through elvish ways, then technically, he’s robbing the grave.

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      2 months ago

      There’s no way an 80 year old woman has the life experience to compare to a 300-1,000 year old elf. There’s an inherent power discrepancy.

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          Glad someone said this, it bothers me even with human ages. Like there’s this perception that as you get older you simply gain knowledge, wisdom, world experience, etc. Not a lot of people account for biological limits for knowledge/memory, nor degradation from aging.

          If some young intern decided to try to have sex with Biden, I think there’s genuinely a conversation to be had about if that’s statutory rape. I think you’d need a healthcare professional to rule on if Biden has the mental capacity to fully consent. Similar to a drunk person. They’re still obviously a person able to think/engage with the world, but they’re heavily impaired and unable to fully consent as a result. Age impairs cognition too.

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    2 months ago

    The grave, I would expect “From the cradle to the grave” to be describing the subject. So if the elf is marrying the old woman, then he’s robbing the old woman’s grave

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    2 months ago

    I’m more concerned about the implications of the word “robbing”. I mean, I’m hoping there’s consent happening here …

    /s

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    2 months ago

    The way I solve such matters in fantasy, once the characters involved have reached the required maturity and properly comprehend their commitment to one another it’s all good.