Misread the title of the other post which made me think of this question.
I, as a male, have had multiple women ask me how we ride bikes without smashing our balls.
One that used to really grind my gears was “oh, you’re babysitting today?”
No, they’re my kids. I’m their father.
“No, I mean, you’re giving Mom a break?”
FFS.
Depends on the situation. I’m working and my wife is currently a SAHM because the little one is quite tiny indeed. When I get home after work I take the baby off her hands for a while because I KNOW my wife had a more exhausting day than I did because of the little
demonsangels. And anything the 3yo needs, I’ll be there for her so she doesn’t bother mom with everything.Sometimes it does feel like I’m babysitting or giving her a break, because she for sure spends way more time and energy on them throughout the day.
Ok, you just struck a nerve here, that shit drive me crazy.
I’m a first time father of a 6 months old and I love him to death. I want to spend every waking moment with him so I take up as much “baby works” as possible since his birth. Bath, feeding, changing, play, exercise, going outside, doctor appointments, I do all those things.
And EVERY SINGLE GODDAMN TIME I got asked “where’s the mother?”, “Is she busy today so you’re babysitting?”, “Why you have to babysit today?”
HAVE TO? BITCH! This is my fuckin pleasure, I’m craving it, I’m addicted to this little poop machine. GTFO!
I want to yell at their face “THIS IS MY SON, I LOVE HIM, CAN’T I JUST BE WITH HIM!?”
My wife admitted that I do a much better job taking care of our baby. I am kind of “extra careful” type of person and I’ve been taking care of foster newborn kittens for a decade, and believe it or not but some skills does transfer over. Infants is basically function on pure instinct, and I’m damn good at anticipate it. I can accurately translate my son’s cry 90% of the time. He has 3 distinct cries for hungry, sleep, and diaper change, then later another “i’m bored” cry.
My wife would often call me on the phone to have me listen to his crying and ask what’d he want.
I’m a damn good father and I’m proud to take care of him. I don’t have to do it, I GET TO do it!
Brother, you got it exactly. Being a parent isn’t a chore I’m doing, it’s my primary vocation.
Honestly with how oblivious most men are to the amount of work the average mother does, this is not a weird or stupid question. Insensitive, sure. Traditional gender roles still spill over into conversation, especially with older folks. The absolute least a father can do is aim to carry an equal share of the load of having children. The bitter reality is that this does not happen nearly as much as it should, hence comments like these.
Moms are underrated as fuck.
I think it’s acceptable if the mother isn’t working and the father is basically the breadwinner. Which, y’know, used to be economically viable. But if both parents are sharing the financial load then they should share the parental load as well. And even if a dad is working, he should still be a dad on the weekends and after work. All children need a good father figure.
Yep, absolutely agree. Thanks for seeing the nuance.
Yeah. It’s awful how when society changes to give women more responsibility (financially) that the idea of them looking solely after the children is still expected, even though they are having to work and it dates back to when they were housekeepers.
The absolute least a father can do
I find that these “bare minimum” assertions often crumble upon contact with any real-life scenario
Absolutely. That bare minimum is a distant unreachable fantasy for some married moms I know.
I don’t get it myself. I wanted to be a father for a long time and since I became one I’ve been loving it. Because you know, I wanted the relationship and all that rather than “you’re supposed to have kids.” It’s sad enough when people do that with dogs, never mind tiny vulnerable humans.
Piss off
Ta yeule.
Tell the ladies that you have to pee before riding a bike so your balls are empty.
I always inform any ladies present when I need to urinate
Quite a few.
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“How do you sleep on your stomach with your breasts?”
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“How do you see down below your breasts when you need to look to the ground?”
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“Do the size of your breasts alter what size clothes you buy?”
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“How can you not swim? Don’t breasts float like basketballs?”
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“Does having breasts ever make you feel you’re wearing your weakness?”
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“How do you clean so much hair while taking a shower?”
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“Do things ever fly up your skirt, and what do you do?”
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“How do lesbians have physical fun time?”
“How do you see down below your breasts when you need to look to the ground?”
Do you just have enormous jugs or have you known a lot of particularly dumb men?
“Does having breasts ever make you feel you’re wearing your weakness?”
Ah ok so the second one
I’d say a lot of dumb men. Mine aren’t even that big, probably average by the best judgment.
“How do you see down below your breasts when you need to look to the ground?”
You use mirrors, right?
“How do lesbians have physical fun time?”
Probably playing Wii U, like everyone else.
Most of us don’t need mirrors though, we simply look down. And there are many forms of lesbian bedroom activity, the most common being using fingers in lieu of the sixth limb men have.
You use mirrors, right?
I think they meant that as a joke. Obviously, even if someone had extraordinarily large breasts, they could just peek over them or move them to side.
- “How do lesbians have physical fun time?”
Ok, that one I don’t understand.
It takes line 10s of adult research to find a whole range of possibilities.
Bro’s tacitly admitted he’s mediocre at best in bed
For real, does the entirety of a sexual encounter consist of penis-in-vagina for him? I prefer there to be like an hour of foreplay and I’m a dude. I mean I could go right away too, but the feeling is very, very different for myself too, not just my partner.
It takes line 10s of adult research to find a whole range of possibilities.
Plus it’s a fairly commonly researched topic amongst male teenagers… or so I’ve heard.
It’s different per lesbian, but finger play is the most commonly done.
- “How can you not swim? Don’t breasts float like basketballs?”
Lol, this idiot. If breasts made people float on water. We would’ve used artificial wearable breasts to float instead of tubes!? Such stupidity!
And I may have passed another class probably.
“How do you sleep on your stomach with your breasts?”
Natural breast tissue moves to the side so it’s often not an issue, however for women with larger breasts or for women with dense breast tissue, it can still be painful or uncomfortable.
For women with breast implants over the pectoral muscle, the implants don’t slide to the side and so it would be quite uncomfortable for them to lie or sleep on their stomach.
If a BF of mine ever asks that, his bed better be a tempur pedic.
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This question actually came from another dude, but similar energy: I have a deep voice, so they asked, if it’s relaxing to feel those bass vibrations in my body whenever I talk.
Well… Is it? :p
It for sure is. Like a goddamn built-in subwoofer.
I just had never thought about it before the guy asked, because obviously, I kind of grew up with that voice.
This is the best thing I’ve read today.
I know it’s not technically what you said, but I did envision a baby with a Michael Clarke Duncan voice, and I found it pretty funny!
My mum does like to tell the story that when I was in like first or second grade, she attended some stage show that we were doing. And when I said something on stage, another mum whispered to her “Wow! What a deep voice that boy has!”.
I do also remember not actually having that big of a voice change during puberty, so yeah, that is perhaps closer to the truth than one might expect. 🙃
I wish there was a TV tech interview from the previous decade in which a reporter asked this same question of Elizabeth Holmes.
Sometimes I get a particular kind of headache. Listening to loud music with heavy bass can help ease the headache. Singing along to my playlist of songs I might sing at karaoke from my belly loudly also can help ease the pain a bit. So yes, I guess it can be relaxing.
Sir, we’re gonna need a sample, for science.
Oh yay, this has finally become askreddit…
“Lemmings, what is the sexiest sex you have ever sexed?”
Lemmy is still overwhelmingly white, male, young, and nerdy. Until it gets a more diverse userbase, it won’t be askreddit.
I don’t know where you’re getting your info, but Lemmy trends older, around 30 to middle aged and up. And there a lot of women here as well.
Questions asking “hey gender, what does X something gender?” is so stereotypical askreddit it’s eye rolling.
I’d love to see the data on the “age 30 and up” because the people I interact with have the worldly knowledge and emotional maturity of a teenager far more often than not.
I suspect that data is out of date, from before the reddit exodus.
Edit: and perhaps women are keeping a low profile, but from casual observation I see more trans women than cis women on lemmy, which is insane when you think about the demographics involved.
I’m not sorry for pointing out your topic question is blandly stereotypical reddit drivel.
Do better.
K lol
I’m gonna ask. Is there a difference between white and caucasian?
Oh yeah, people from the Caucasus region of Europe/Asia aren’t white in America anymore
Probably? Not in colloquial usage but I’m sure there’s an academic difference.
I have had more than a few girls ask if they can hold my dick while I piss out of curiosity and not for sexual reasons. Most of them seemed to have thought it would have kick like a firehose. I can assure you: That only happens after I’ve had a large soda during a 3 hour movie in a theatre.
Most of them seemed to have thought it would have kick like a firehose.
You let them?
I’ll let literally anyone touch my dick if they ask. 🤷🏻♂️
this may be the most based thing I’ve heard anyone on Lemmy say
Can I be next?
None of my female friends have ever asked to hold mine. I think it would be fun to have someone else aim.
Are you a gay man? I think that makes a difference.
I am not.
Ah oké it all makes sense now haha
Ha, kind of related: I asked one of my early girlfriends if I clould pull the tampon string when she needed to change it. She let me.
I find this incredibly hard to believe
Why? When you live together comfortably with a group of people, things like this become normal.
I was also surprised by how honest about my sexuality I could be with girls, when we spend 2 months together, almost all day long.
Most of my friends are women but I don’t think they’d ever ask me to do this. But OP is gay so it makes sense knowing that.
Alright
In high school a female classmate asked me: “Do you masturbate?”, and I answered “I don’t need to answer you that.” Well, I was actually uncomfortable by the fact that most people my age likely did, but I actually did not because I found masturbating disgusting. I thought they would think I was too odd for not masturbating lol
If you would have said “no” I’m sure they just wouldn’t have believed you. I was asked that question and said no because I was embarrassed. They didn’t believe me.
I got asked that by a gaggle of 18 yo boys while I was waiting on an elevator in boot camp, trying to embarrass me or something since I was quiet. I looked at them weirdly and said, “Of, course”, like they had just asked if I breathed air. The elevator opened just then and I walked in and though I didn’t get to see their faces, they didn’t get in. It’s small victories over bullies like that that made me realize bullies are weak AF.
Years ago there was a profile on PoF that would hit me up every couple of months asking if they could castrate me. (I’m a trans woman)
It was weird, they weren’t pushy or aggressive, more just, “Hey, you don’t want them, right? Seems like a win win.” Sometimes I’d play along and ask questions and stuff, but they wouldn’t say much, and never actually made any effort to meet up.
I haven’t thought about them in years, hahaha, but seeing your question brought it all back.
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As a cis dude who’s asexual, I’ve gotten weird questions from straight dude bros… one asked me if I “had to be super careful” to not get myself pregnant. Honest question coming from a person our country’s education system has failed.
Wow… that’s kind of baffling.
Are you a slug?
What are they implying?
I’ve had people wonder ask how I cross my legs (not foot-on-knee but actually crossed over) without my balls getting in the way or damaged
Berries down under the top thigh, twig lying on the bottom thigh.
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