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    > Lies there like a dead fish
    > Barely participates
    > Expects pleasure beyond wildest dreams
    > “Why are men so bad at sex?”

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      Have you tried giving instructions? My experience is everyone is different and some people need to be told what to do. Is that a fit for you? Maybe not then move on.

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        Any female lucky enough to end up in bed passed out from pleasure, so can’t say I’ve ever had this problem.

        (for the daft: obviously I’m not being serious)

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    Most men are a lot more receptive to input than many women give us credit for. For the mist part, men do not want to be known as a terrible lay. If your man doesn’t think he needs pointers, get someone else to treat you right.

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    Or rather: don’t fake orgasms, make sure he knows if there’s something he can do better.

    Constrictive criticism and pointers is how we get better, especially at doing the things YOU specifically like.

    If he can’t roll with that, though, kick his ass to the curb. Maybe point and laugh at his weird penis first 😛

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        With you in principle and updooted you, but:

        That one was A) a joke and B) a joke about shaming those unwilling to learn for not being willing to learn. Not about shaming them into being better in any way. What do you think I am, a Catholic parent?

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          Nah, I just wanted to make sure it was obvious to others that part was a joke. I updooted you in a comment you made lower in the comments. I figured you were a person with good intent making a comment involving passion. Something I direly need to learn from. Controlling my responses hasn’t always been great. As for the Catholics, I can’t speak much of anything about them I suppose anymore. I left their following more than 20 years ago now, and I hope they grow better as I don’t think they are going to disappear any time soon. I also need to give up drinking, but for sake of words, I say let’s drink to a better future.

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      Constrictive criticism

      Freudian slip? But hey if that’s what you’re into then good for you 😉

      Otherwise? Yeah, come on, don’t settle for shit sex, if you can teach your partner to be better then why not? Don’t be too afraid to say something.

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        Freudian slip? But hey if that’s what you’re into then good for you 😉

        Actually a happy autocomplete accident, but yeah, gonna leave it as is because you made it fun 😄

        Otherwise? Yeah, come on, don’t settle for shit sex, if you can teach your partner to be better then why not? Don’t be too afraid to say something.

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    I know the tone of this is supposed to be “haha you suck” but if you fake it then you’re only going to make the guy keep doing the thing that didn’t work. Help them learn how to be better because they can’t feel what you’re feeling.

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      they can’t feel what you’re feeling.

      Well, the fun part is, if you’re doing it right, you absolutely can… But if it’s never happened before, you don’t know what you’re missing.

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    I dumped a woman when she told me she faked her orgasms. Good sex requires honesty, trust, and communication. It’s impossible to get better when either person is being dishonest.

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      Good, fuck her. Or not fuck her in this case. I’ve dated two or three guys that had honesty issues, and the relationship crumbled very quickly after I figured it out. Without trust there’s no respect, no cooperation, no kindness.

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    I’m lucky my wife orgasms easily from PIV makes me feel like a champ but really it’s just her body that makes it happen.

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        Here’s the psychic cure, actually fake orgasms don’t exist, they are all real. If she tells you she faked it, it means she’s lying to you, and now she’s just trying to hurt you, probably because you didn’t do the dishes last night.

        There, the whole fake orgasm thing, solved forever.

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    As a chronic premature ejaculator, just get good with your tongue and pushing past the refactory period to go for round 2 (which lasts ages 👍)

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    Honestly, yeah! If it’s not going to happen, fine, that’s life sometimes. If I’m doing something that doesn’t work for you, or you want something different, how tf am I supposed to know that? I’m not psychic ffs. If you fake an orgasm, you get what you deserve.

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      Lol, you sound really angry. If you want to get better at this, you should probably remove your ego from the equation here and look at it objectively.

      I see a lot of anger from both genders these days on social media. Take a step back from all of that and date people who are not into all that shit. It will turn your brain into mush. :)

      Social media is harmful for you. It’s become even worse than the news now, since it’s actively targeting you with algorithms, trying to get you to be upset so you click around. It’s going to serve you the worst of humanity fighting eachother.

      Just touch grass.

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        “It’s ok babe, I’m good, my thighs are sore.”
        “No, I’m gonna get you off tonight!”

        Sometimes the kind thing to do is just fake it. It doesn’t mean the sex was bad, it doesn’t mean I wasn’t satisfied. But getting to the Big O is often times just too much trouble.

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          Okay but if that’s his response then put your foot down and tell him in no uncertain terms that you are finished

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      Tell him it’s not going to happen. It’s okay if it doesn’t. The important part is he tried.

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    I feel badly for the lots of men that believe their life is to please women.

    this group includes me