Yeah what didn’t kill me gave me a chronic disease. I’m weak as hell compared to 3 years ago.

What doesn’t kill you evolves and tries again

In the same vein (and at least as dangerous): “Pain is just weakness leaving the body.” No, you testosterone poisoned numb-nuts - it is your body’s way of telling you that something is not right. Stop and listen!

Science has proven that what doesn’t kill you (like a virus) actually weakens you. But, conversely, you become more efficient at responding to that specific thing so it only appears like it made you stronger.

And maybe a long term disability too.

What doesn’t kill you only postpones the inevitable.

What doesn’t kill you gets exrea practice for next time.

Well, no, the trauma is the event itself. The reaction to it is post-traumatic stress. If that stress gets in the way of your day-to-day functioning, then it could be called PTSD (but there’s like pages and pages of diagnostic criteria too).

That reminds me of that zach and cody episode where their mom says “alls fair in love and war” and both of them run with it and Cody ends up locking Zach in a closet as he steals the girl

It’s not a great saying if used to defend acts (on the love side of things, that mindset can even ruin what it’s trying to “win”), but it does make sense to keep it in mind when considering possible actions of other players. If you’re fighting for someone’s love or at war, don’t assume there’s any moral limits to what others might do and that it’s thus safe to ignore those angles.

I’ve always liked it. I guess it depends who is saying it because when my old boss said it, it meant more like, “this is the situation we’re in, let’s not waste time arguing about why it is the situation and let’s just focus on dealing with it and going forward”

An entirely hollow statement, yet somehow ringing with apathy.

“Agree to disagree” is even worse, especially since often the thing you’re arguing about is an empirical goddamn fact and they are not entitled to “disagree” about it. That’s not having a difference of opinion; that’s just fucking being wrong!

I use it when people keep complaining about situations they cannot change. Yes, we fell in the hole, yes it hurt, please just let’s focus on how to get out.

“Ah fuck, this hole sucks! Who even dug that here!? My shoes are dirty, my pants are a mess!” …

“Well… It is what it is. Let’s get out.”

It do be like that

Tautology is tautology, as I say.

Interesting. I use it to indicate I may not like a situation, but I have to play the have I was dealt to the best of my ability, and sometimes… Well to quote lyrics, “got to know when to hold cem, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, know when to run.”

I got told “life isn’t fair” so many times growing up, I came up with a default comeback: “Doesn’t mean you have to be.”

A version of it has grown to became my tenet in life: “The universe doesn’t care, so we have to.”

“Life isn’t fair” always bothered me, even as a kid, because it was used against me to dismiss unjust actions.

Saying something isn’t fair is basically saying it’s not right, it’s not just.

Trying to claim the injustice against me is moot or unimportant just because there’s lots of injustice in the world, seems bonkers to me.

I actually am guilty of using that when people try to tell me “there’s someone out there for everyone.” Or “don’t worry, you’ll find someone who loves you for you.”

Like no? Life isn’t fair, there’s no guarantee of anything.

To your point I agree though, discussing what we’d like to improve is important.

I hate how “well life is just not fair” shuts down so many very much needed discussions.

That being said, I say that a lot, especially to myself whenever someone, again, including myself, is being intolerable brat who thinks they deserve fairness. No, that’s not how world works.

Funny thing is that those kind of people tend to not care about other people’s struggle or fairness.

aka bootstrapping

“Bootstrapping” came after “pull up by the bootstraps”. The former does allude to the latter, but it isn’t the same phrase; it was used in computing to refer to the initial startup of a computer, where the computer has to start up enough of itself to load its own code into memory. That’s a difficult problem, but not an impractical one.

the original interpretation actually makes sense!

I assumed this was about sheep at first, and was confused and increasingly concerned.

RAM usually sits at 95% utilized anyway. People who say this dont know the first thing about operatig systems. They cache files…

That currently unused ram has use later on. I don’t use my second ram stick without booting up a game, doesn’t mean it’s a waste.

People also often confuse allocated RAM with used RAM.

Depends on the context, I suppose. I always say to get twice the RAM than you think you need when building/buying a system. Like storage space, the ideal memory usage is 50 percent with the biggest memory eaters you have running. Enough to run everything you have and room to grow for the future.

Or as I prefer to say, no such thing as too much RAM (assuming your system supports it)

They’re just saying that it feels good to their confirmation bias.

You just reminded me of this

Those who champion “brutal honesty” are more interested in the brutality than the honest

I think it depends on the context. If we have an expert on a topic who tries to use some form of simplified Modell and direct speach to make his knowledge more understandable for everyone it is true. Even tho it may be simplified it still contains the most important parts.

Just reading this makes me SO ANGRY RIGHT NOW!!!

I see it like a special move.

Like I’m interjecting/interrupting.

So like “Quick question attack! Where did you get that pie?”

I try to only use that when it’s information I expect the person already knows and can answer quickly (i.e. generally very concrete yes/no questions of low complexity)

I use this, and I struggle a little to disengage when the person I ask interprets it as “help me figure out how to solve this” when they don’t actually have the “short answer”.

The problem is that common sense isn’t all that common. In Denmark we say “healthy sense” instead.

I rip into people who say “common sense”. It’s often used by people who aren’t good communicators.

I hate the phrase in political contexts.

“We need common sense (insert) laws!”

In other words, you either agree with me or lack common sense.

Most people don’t care about what’s true, something that took me forever to realize. Encountering humanity under the assumption that everyone cares about the truth (or any aspect of empirical and normative reality) is bound to be suuuper confusing until you figure things out. People are literally animals (we forget that), and animals are just trying to survive. Some of them are cute or loving. Not all of them are particularly “good,” and even fewer are willing to sacrifice creature comforts in pursuit of some abstract virtues. That’s why Trump gets any votes.

but there is just no right or wrong answer to every question… sometimes it’s just about opinion.

sometimes these questions are trivial (which color of tie should I wear with this shirt) and sometimes they are literally life and death questions (should death penalty be legal)… and there will always be people with opposing opinions on them. “agreeing to disagree” is literally the best possible thing they can do to live in the same society.

I find it really useful to shut down discussions where no one is budging and are just overall a big waste of time. As an example, if I’ve been trying to convince someone that the earth is round for 10 minutes and they clearly don’t have any interest in changing their view, I’ll just spare me the trouble and say it. If they still refuse to let it go, I start blindly agreeing with them, that usually does the trick.

I especially hate it here in the South, as it’s used as a sanctimonious “fuck you” while dishonestly claiming righteousness.

For example, the last time that was said to me was when some asshole crossed a double-yellow to pass me while I was doing 22 in a 25 mph school zone (which means he was doing at least 35 or 40). When I pulled up next to him at the red light and pointed that out, he bitched at me for taking the lane instead of riding in the bike lane (that didn’t exist! It was half a block of shoulder that ended!). He continued to argue that cyclists weren’t entitled to use the street, then as the light changed said “bless you” as if he fucking won and drove off.

It is the most condescending, assholish thing you can say to a person and it makes me want to punch you in your smarmy goddamn face every single time.

“God love you… no one else will”

Yeah. I always vehemently agree with the person misusing. “Yes! That’s exactly it. A few bad apples spoil the bunch. Perfectly captures the problem, friend! Good call.”

In French, it is actuall “a single apple” spoil the whole thing “une pomme pourrie gâte tout le panier”

Yeaaahhhh Nietzsche was making a very different point about convalescence but of course popular culture bastardized it. If Nietzsche knew that he was going to become an anthem for white girl positivity, he would… well, he’d probably gloat because he predicted that. But his gloating would look like misery.

Whatever doesn’t kill me makes me wish it did

You can’t take money from certain funds like 401k before reaching certain age without paying hefty penalty tho

There are parts of the world where it is a function of age, or at least of the number of years you’ve been working, because the government will pay you a pension after you worked and paid taxes this many years.